asking someone out on a date you have no chance with ?

[Deviant]

No such thing as someone I have no chance with, I am average at best when it comes to looks but my confidence oozes out so much my feet get wet.

I think u just described swag. Just ask her out if she wants to be a bitch about it their are a million other girls.

[Jtbrig7390]

To sum it up go for broke. You will ether gain everything or lose nothing. The only way you can lose something is if you never try and you waste time.

Edit: To be clear this comes from someone with zero self confidence.

[Pendulous]

I don't get the idea of "you have no chance with". I ask girls out who I predict I will have things in common with, not who looks like what other people define as "hot".

[Adam Jensen]

Just ask her out. All she can say is "no". And when they say "no", you can move on with your life.

This only becomes an issue when you can't muster up the cajones to ask them out, and stew over it, building your attraction up into this contorted, one-sided obsession.

You make it sound so rational.

We're not rational beings. "OMG SHE MIGHT REJECT ME AND IT'LL BE THE END OF THE WORLD THERE IS ONLY ONE WOMAN ON THE PLANET!!!!"

That's my brain . . .

[inboundpaper]

Last time that happened I found out before I asked her out. That was a weird time.

[Jtbrig7390]

Its better to gain some confidence, because if you end up lucky then you could have these same confidence problems within the relationship, which is harder to manage than when single, or in case you do fail, help you get back up.

True but there is many events that lead to me not having much if any self confidence.

But even I know sometimes its better to just go for broke and see what happens. Just be smart keep your guard up and see what happens.

Taking that risk and even it leading into failer can lead into gainging some confidence. Not trying just makes it worse and its the only time you really lose.

[derpkitteh]

i did it in high school. didn't even know if she'd be down for it and was kinda scared she'd make it known that i asked her, but everything turned out alright in the end. got my first girlfriend and i have only once regretted it.

[Eviscero]

Getting rejected is 1/100th the intensity of the feeling you get from reciprocated affection from someone you have been crushing on. So think of it this way: if you have a 1% success rate, you're breaking even. I like those odds.

[Mormolyce]

Married her.

So no, it didn't work out well.

[prwraith]

Married her.

So no, it didn't work out well.

My condolences

[Ardeki]

I tried that in high school...

Her response was to kick me in the chest.

Haven't done that since.

[Gsara]

The worst thing that can happen is she says no.

[Racthoh]

do it man, you might be surprised

[Cephilia]

I've been on the other side of that thing. Believe me, guys are absolutely blind when it comes to recognizing who likes them. My first boyfriend thought I thought he was stupid and unattractive despite me trying to be as obvious as possible with the fact I had been crushing on him for years. Eventually just went ahead and kissed him, and even then he had to be explained that I had feelings for him -.-' So try it out, nothing to lose there.

[numnumm]

In high school, I met this girl during my freshmen year. We've dated since then (on & off). During my first semester of senior year, just kinda fell apart and I was sad tbh, felt depressed. Wasn't until some other girl who I sat with in astronomy class my junior year started talking to me through twitter. When I sat by her in astronomy, she barely talked when I started a conversation with her. I figured she thought I was a loser or something, way to 'good' for her.

Turns out, she hated seeing me sad and depressed & had a HUUUUUGE crush on me since my sophomore year. We both started talking and then it turned into everyday conversations.. she admitted to having that crush on me and I couldn't believe it because she was a grade above me & she was pretty damn good looking.
What sucks is when we started dating. I asked her if she'd be my girlfriend & obviously she said yes. but she turned into a different person when I was with her in person.
She'd make shit excuses when I asked to hang out with her; she assumed I would lie to her, & she couldn't keep up a conversation.
Few days later she tells me shes done with me until she settles down. & tbh I'm a flirty guy when I'm single so I was flirting it up, she finds out, she gets angry and pissed at me and tells me, "we're taking a break.. doesn't mean you can go out and flirt etc etc" I'm like wtf?

Long story short, my ex comes in my work, we start talking, laughing, smiling, get back together & now im happy again.
I miss her a little bit though.. but she blocked me on everything.
& a few days after she broke up with me, she admitted to everyone she like girls instead of guys. (No I'm not against gays.. Just kinda find it odd that my ex and i had to end it that way)

I realized I rushed into another relationship after a broken off one.. I learned my lesson.

but op, you should ask her out because you may never know how she really truly feels about you

[Dontrike]

I have never asked anyone out on a date, it is just easier to believe that I have a good shot of getting maced and I don't want that, plus skipping that whole rejection thing is a lot easier and saves me plenty of time.

[Othraerir]

i wouldn't know as i've never tried, too late to care about it now.

[Bumbasta]

Never did it, don't have the balls.

[Deleted]

always worries me when i see guys asking this, asking someone out is a formality to a relationship that has already started, the girl will make it clear in no uncertain terms that she wants a date, thats when you ask - just going up to the girl that you have been looking at for 6months without ever saying anything to will always lead to rejection

[shise]

No such thing as someone I have no chance with, I am average at best when it comes to looks but my confidence oozes out so much my feet get wet.

Hah! that was a good one xD

I'd say go for it. With time you'll learn some of the most important words to be part of this society, and one day you'll be able to put them all together; "who cares?" if it goes right, none will care but you will, of it goes wrong none really cares either! So there's nothing to lose but a lot to win for you!