Originally Posted by
Anakso
It depends entirely on the person and on the person writing the obit, I'm personally a believer that someone dying doesn't mean we should suddenly assume they were great and awesome, and it's always annoyed me when the media does this. A celebrity can have nothing but bad things sad about them in certain papers/magazined and then they die and suddenly they were the best person that ever lived.
I believe in honesty, but to a point, this man seems like he was scum so such an obit suits him, however, if he was a good father and good man but had just made a couple of mistakes in his life, there would be no reason to include them in the obit.
But everyone's different, I don't think a precedent needs to be set for this at all. You ask 5 people to write an obit for the same person and you'll get 5 different obits, and that is fine.