I am over causal relationships and I feel empty

[TheBeardedOne]

So I had a one night stand last night and it felt like just going through the motions. It felt empty and meaningless for the first time ever, I have been feeling this way a lot recently, the thrill of the chase is gone and the allure of a married woman dead. I have had countless (lost count at 50 when I was 24) short relationships and one night stands. I am now a 36 year alcoholic with not much to live for (Iown a few houses, have a good career to fuel my hobbies but thats it) For the first time ever I feel like a proper relationship.
My sister told me to try online dating (my idea of this before was looking up escorts) and it was awash with women my age with children searching for a man with a good job to be a new father for their crotch fruit. Fuck that I don't want my own children (doing the world a favor here) let alone someone elses bad decision.
I have no problem picking up younger women but they are hardly relationship material.

Have I missed the boat with good women or should I go back to my old ways.
Or should I just off my self because life is pretty meh.

[breadisfunny]

So I had a one night stand last night and it felt like just going through the motions. It felt empty and meaningless for the first time ever, I have been feeling this way a lot recently, the thrill of the chase is gone and the allure of a married woman dead. I have had countless (lost count at 50 when I was 24) short relationships and one night stands. I am now a 36 year alcoholic with not much to live for (Iown a few houses, have a good career to fuel my hobbies but thats it) For the first time ever I feel like a proper relationship.
My sister told me to try online dating (my idea of this before was looking up escorts) and it was awash with women my age with children searching for a man with a good job to be a new father for their crotch fruit. Fuck that I don't want my own children (doing the world a favor here) let alone someone elses bad decision.
I have no problem picking up younger women but they are hardly relationship material.

Have I missed the boat with good women or should I go back to my old ways.
Or should I just off my self because life is pretty meh.

gee i sure wish i had a house to go home to and money to buy stuff. i dont see how your life is SOOO horrible.

[Deleted]

So I had a one night stand last night and it felt like just going through the motions. It felt empty and meaningless for the first time ever, I have been feeling this way a lot recently, the thrill of the chase is gone and the allure of a married woman dead. I have had countless (lost count at 50 when I was 24) short relationships and one night stands. I am now a 36 year alcoholic with not much to live for (Iown a few houses, have a good career to fuel my hobbies but thats it) For the first time ever I feel like a proper relationship.
My sister told me to try online dating (my idea of this before was looking up escorts) and it was awash with women my age with children searching for a man with a good job to be a new father for their crotch fruit. Fuck that I don't want my own children (doing the world a favor here) let alone someone elses bad decision.
I have no problem picking up younger women but they are hardly relationship material.

Have I missed the boat with good women or should I go back to my old ways.
Or should I just off my self because life is pretty meh.

You have not missed the boat!

End of the day, no matter what age or situation you are in, finding someone who is properly compatible with you and with your current situation is difficult. It's good that you know what you are looking for, this is a promising start. Online dating is good as it allows you to meet a lot more people than you ordinarily would, but obviously it will attract more of certain types than others. Give it a good go (but don't compromise on what you are looking for. If someone isn't right then don't get involved) and if you can't find anyone you are remotely interested in, try looking in different places. Different sites can be good, or just in real life. There are absolutley women out there who don't want children or don't have them yet or whatever who are single at any age. Finding exactly what you want is always going to be difficult but don't give up!

[Hexian]

So I had a one night stand last night and it felt like just going through the motions. It felt empty and meaningless for the first time ever, I have been feeling this way a lot recently, the thrill of the chase is gone and the allure of a married woman dead. I have had countless (lost count at 50 when I was 24) short relationships and one night stands. I am now a 36 year alcoholic with not much to live for (Iown a few houses, have a good career to fuel my hobbies but thats it) For the first time ever I feel like a proper relationship.
My sister told me to try online dating (my idea of this before was looking up escorts) and it was awash with women my age with children searching for a man with a good job to be a new father for their crotch fruit. Fuck that I don't want my own children (doing the world a favor here) let alone someone elses bad decision.
I have no problem picking up younger women but they are hardly relationship material.

Have I missed the boat with good women or should I go back to my old ways.
Or should I just off my self because life is pretty meh.

How is your running, biking, swimming?

I have been looking for a training partner for the ironman. I am thinking a 2-3 training period.

[TheBeardedOne]

gee i sure wish i had a house to go home to and money to buy stuff. i dont see how your life is SOOO horrible.

Myblife is awesome and I love my hobbies but I have no one to share it with and I am over just casual sex. I feel empty. I also feel like drinking but that never ends well

[Keyboard Champion]

Kinda missed the boat there. Am in the same situation, 33 here, but I don't give a crap, as long as I have my video games I don't feel like getting into a relationship. Always been kinda antisocial too, so I guess I fit the pattern for forever alone but the great thing is I'm happy with it.

Yeah, at our age most women have luggage. Your best bet is to find some leftovers. Next boat is around 40-ish when a lot of people get a divorce and switch partners.

[Stelio Kontos]

I'm the opposite, I spent 7 years in a relationship, from 24 to 31 or so, then she left me. Before that had been a series of longish relationships going back to 19 or so.

I felt like I had missed out on being care-free and having fun with lots of girls.

So now I'm 33 and making up for lost time. I think it's easier now that it would have been in my 20s. A lot of girls like a guy a few years older, and the money from working is a lot more attractive than being a college guy.

[Sooba]

Your title, it does not mean what you think it means.

[TheBeardedOne]

Kinda missed the boat there. Am in the same situation, 33 here, but I don't give a crap, as long as I have my video games I don't feel like getting into a relationship. Always been kinda antisocial too, so I guess I fit the pattern for forever alone but the great thing is I'm happy with it.

Yeah, at our age most women have luggage. Your best bet is to find some leftovers. Next boat is around 40-ish when a lot of people get a divorce and switch partners.

I am antisocail as well and have some trust issues (quiet serious ones actually). Is this what growing up feels like? I used to fill this hole with meaningless sexbut now I want to have someone to love

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Your title, it does not mean what you think it means.

I am empty on two fronts hehe

[TEHPALLYTANK]

Sounds like you're bored.

[tankbug]

The ship hasn't sailed to get a good relationship @ 36 years old. It has never sailed.

[breadisfunny]

My life is awesome and I love my hobbies but I have no one to share it with and I am over just casual sex. I feel empty. I also feel like drinking but that never ends well

yeah you sure have a LOT to be depressed about. your not depressed your just looking for attention. a truly depressed person wouldnt find joy in anything.

[TheBeardedOne]

I'm the opposite, I spent 7 years in a relationship, from 24 to 31 or so, then she left me. Before that had been a series of longish relationships going back to 19 or so.

I felt like I had missed out on being care-free and having fun with lots of girls.

So now I'm 33 and making up for lost time. I think it's easier now that it would have been in my 20s. A lot of girls like a guy a few years older, and the money from working is a lot more attractive than being a college guy.

My longest relationship was 3 months when I was 22. I don't have much experience with longs ones. Age is important they cannot be older than me

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yeah you sure have a LOT to be depressed about. your not depressed your just looking for attention. a truly depressed person wouldnt find joy in anything.

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I said I feel empty not depressed....also worded poorly my life is awesome looking in from the outside, hobbies are only good while you do them that is all I have to get me through the day

[Kerath]

You have not missed the boat. There are absolutely women out there in their 30s who don't have and/or don't want children. They're a bit hard to find, but definitely out there. I'd give the online dating a good go - at least it allows you to screen out the women that have children. Good luck OP.

[Stelio Kontos]

My longest relationship was 3 months when I was 22. I don't have much experience with longs ones. Age is important they cannot be older than me

My first relationship was about a year and change, them I had one 21 to 23 or so, then started my seven year mistake. So, 3 girls. At 31 that was a depressing dating history. At least it felt so to me at the time.

[TheBeardedOne]

My first relationship was about a year and change, them I had one 21 to 23 or so, then started my seven year mistake. So, 3 girls. At 31 that was a depressing dating history. At least it felt so to me at the time.

Well its probably better than countless hundreds, I do not remember the name of most of them, god forbid the ones whne I was drinking, its destroyed friendships many a time and marriages as well but I keep returning for more, its a hard cycle to break

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You have not missed the boat. There are absolutely women out there in their 30s who don't have and/or don't want children. They're a bit hard to find, but definitely out there. I'd give the online dating a good go - at least it allows you to screen out the women that have children. Good luck OP.

Yeah and what if they ask what I have been up to for the last 15 years?

[Tyrgannus]

yeah you sure have a LOT to be depressed about. your not depressed your just looking for attention. a truly depressed person wouldnt find joy in anything.

Somewhat of an absolutist claim. I'll agree that OP sounds more bored/in a rut/ lonely than full on depressed, but I think someone can have legit clinical depression and still find some modicum of joy on occasion, even if it is to a much lesser degree.

At one part of my life, I found joy from not getting in a fight or having to use my credit card (broke, but needed groceries). That was about it. Still, if I could get through a day without a fight, that gave me a modicum of joy. Doesn't mean I wasn't miserable, and I actually did have months of therapy after that

[Hexian]

Yeah and what if they ask what I have been up to for the last 15 years?

I was seriously about the training offer. You would be amazed the women you find at races and training gatherings.

[starkey]

http://www.mmo-champion.com/threads/...happened-again
http://www.mmo-champion.com/threads/1368205-last
http://www.mmo-champion.com/threads/...made-a-mistake

love ya stories keep them coming

[TheBeardedOne]

I was seriously about the training offer. You would be amazed the women you find at races and training gatherings.

I don't enjoy running personally but thanks for the offer

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http://www.mmo-champion.com/threads/...happened-again
http://www.mmo-champion.com/threads/1368205-last
http://www.mmo-champion.com/threads/...made-a-mistake

love ya stories keep them coming

This is why I don't drink it destroyed my life