I've been friends with this guy for 12+ years now, and for the last 4 or so we've been planning on getting an apartment together. Recently, that finally happened. He moved 3 hours from his house to get here on a job transfer
After a bit of time though, I'm starting to feel this was a mistake.
The first initial problem, and this is just a private problem, is that I feel insanely homesick. It hurts. It's a lot of small things that I desperately miss.
like not being able to walk out of my room and just talk to my mom.
it's the lack of cars driving by my window (the sound of them)
it's lack of having faint background noise while trying to sleep (mom/sister watching netflix from the other room)
it's waking up to an empty house (roommate/friend works mornings, I work 2nd shift)
it's not having my bed below a window, sleeping with the window slightly open to get a cool breeze in - this new place has odd windows.
it's the location - I lived in a great place, close to a lot of places, right in the center of town, this new place is on the outskirts, which is nice looking but it's to quiet here, to distant from things I enjoy.
it's...just everything, really.
In addition to my homesickness there's also some other problems starting to surface:
1) There's been some tension and arguing - mainly over finances and chores. Nothing major - yet - but the tension is there
2) He's the kind of guy who lives off raman, rice, and potatoes. I can't do that, I need somewhat decent food, which I can afford, but he insists on splitting most bills evenly.
2.5) He insists on splitting most bills - and does all of his shopping at the dollar store (where he works as the assistant manager of a brand-new dollar store in a nice part of town). I tend to like a bit higher quality stuff, but he still wants to split bills
3) I have 3 awesome cats at home that I miss like crazy
And above all, this apartment just doesn't FEEL like HOME, it feels empty. We each have our own TVs in our own room and rarely have company over (which I also don't like...I'm fairly social).
So, basically, I want to move back home, for the homesick, and to preserve the friendship of years, I'd hate to have this friendship ruined over financial arguments, and chores, but I don't want to leave him out in the cold - he can't really afford this place on his own and can't really transfer back after making such a big deal about transferring here.
But I don't think I can do this, I feel this may have been the biggest mistake I've ever made. Never have I wanted anything more than I want to move back home now. I just don't think I'm ready to be on my own yet.
So my question is, is there a good option to do this that would let me get home, without destroying my friends life? He's super picky about roommates so finding a replacement for myself might not be possible.
We're still under lease, but I would be completely willing to shoulder up to 60% of the lease breaking fee myself, depending on what it is, maybe even all of it.
This is even affecting my work - I keep thinking about wanting to move home all day which distracts from my calls (I work tech support)