Originally Posted by
enigma28
Muchos agreement. I've been RL'ing since I was 16 (I'm 25 now) I personally don't like hand holding, but you know sometimes you have to do it. I run really relaxed raids usually have a healer, and one or both tanks, that will call stuff out with me (I'm a spriest). I find that way no one's attention is divided that much. I try to keep the mood light, constantly cracking jokes and getting into people (or myself) when mistakes occur, I find it helps morale and that jazz. On the listening, even though I'm almost never serious I've never had a problem with people not listening to me, I've always put in the effort, always had raid buffs, and many gems/enchants on hand to use loot immediately, always on time, etc... basically just demonstrate what I expect of them, they seem to respect that and in turn show me the respect of not wasting my time.
On the loot personally I've always made it clear that alts are welcome if you know how to play them and they have appropriate gear, but that there is no way you will be getting loot over a main. Only exception to that rule is if it is an alt that we request is bought frequently (like during a healer drought), and even then I could count the times on one hand that they got something over a main.
If you've only got 3 tanks I'd talk to all three, and see if one would be willing to main DPS. Basically tell them they will have priority on tank loot (after the main tanks), then tell the other two that if they ever want to just chill and DPS they can swap roles with the third guy (if they are willing to work on their DPS set). That's if all three are good players that are worth keeping anyway.
If you've got 4, I'd talk to them all and tell them the options, I'd assume you'd want to give priority to the tanks that have been around the longest? If so explain to the others that the reality is they may not get that much play time. Swapping tanks in and out isn't a good idea as it splits the loot for arguably the most important role in the raid too thin. If your tank can't survive that special ability, or can't dodge/block enough and stresses the heals to breaking, you may as well go and farm some pumpkins.
In general I treat OffSpec as an alt, they get loot only if we use their OffSpec often. If you run a loot council, it's usually easy, tell the three tanks they can work it out among themselves. I had the same situation and the above is what I did, then the three guys would just chat for a min about tank loot and decide who would get it between them. End result was we had our MT with awesome gear, OT just a little behind that, and our 3rd tank not far behind the OT, and the third guy had an on par with other Melee DPS set, and the MT OT worked on their DPS sets in their own time.