Is it cheating if I was drunk?

[Xiorin]

If you were my boyfriend, you would no longer be my boyfriend after I found out. It'd be better if she heard it from you because coming from her sister makes that whole situation far worse.

[Thekri]

So am I excused becasue I was drunk and she technically .. did abuse the opportunity?

Doesn't really matter if anyone on this forum tells you you were justified or not, it depends on how your GF feels about it. I doubt you will get much sympathy here either, if you hadn't got caught you apparently would just not tell her, so that makes it pretty clear you consider it cheating.

Short Version: It is probably over man, just move on as gracefully as possible under the circumstances.

[Alvito]

But what about her friend? I was the part being drunk, I'm not sure how drunk she was. But I was a goner after the last shots.
It's a bit her fault for taking me to the room? No? I mean sure I messed up drinking, and getting drunk, but I never stripped off and engaged while I was sober.
I just woke up to her sister poking me and asking me what was going on. Later on we talked and I figured .. what happened.

You can't blame the booze or the girl for what you did. You may want to but are responsible for your actions. Be a man and a grown up and realize that.

[Vokal]

This saturday my GF invited me and a friend over, we had a casual drinking night, watching movies.. She went to bed, me and her friend spent some time together, we had a bit too much to drink, and ended up having a explicit fun. Things happened, her sister came home, saw me naked in the guest room with her friend.

So thing's she will tell my GF (Her sister) if I wont tell her. So did I screw things up?
I don't remember much, but her friend did confirm that things did get dirty.

So am I excused becasue I was drunk and she technically .. did abuse the opportunity? And how should I go on explaining it to my GF? I had no intention for sex. We are very open, and that friend is a close friend of her.

You were drunk and the girl took advantage of you being inebriated.

How could you consent to sex if you were drunk?

You didn't cheat, you were raped.

[Feral Camel]

But what about her friend? I was the part being drunk, I'm not sure how drunk she was.

The friend is most likely to be disowned.

[Socialhealer]

chances are you're fucked, if you don't tell her and others do you can guarantee you're fucked because then you're making it much worse.

fastest way to end a relationship is do something wrong then don't confess or lie about it because that just makes it 10 times worse.

[bryroo]

I'm having a hard time believing this is real question.

Being drunk doesn't excuse you from the things you do when you drink and if you even entertain that thought you aren't responsible enough to be drinking.

You deserve to be dumped for the lack of respect you showed her and I'm dumb founded that any of this would have to be explained to an actual human being.

[zephid]

So am I excused becasue I was drunk

No, being drunk is not a valid excuse.

[Ratboy]

If you have to ask if it is cheating then the answer is yes.

[Kezotar]

You can't blame the booze or the girl for what you did. You may want to but are responsible for your actions. Be a man and a grown up and realize that.

I drank too much, I did not have sex consensually. Basically I passed out, I'm not sure how I can even get the bear awaken when I'm passed out..
And for a clarification. Last thing I remember

In the living room, watching a movie, took the last shot, after 10 minutes, I woke up to her sister waking me up. Hope that clarifies things, I did not engage in the sex, and not because I was drunk did I make a move on her. I was out.

[thunderdragon2]

Basically, you're fucked. That's not a legitimate excuse.

completly agreen dosent mater if you were drunk or not you still cheated and imo being drunk just makes it worse, yous hsould just admit it things will be better that way

[Jtbrig7390]

This saturday my GF invited me and a friend over, we had a casual drinking night, watching movies.. She went to bed, me and her friend spent some time together, we had a bit too much to drink, and ended up having a explicit fun. Things happened, her sister came home, saw me naked in the guest room with her friend.

So thing's she will tell my GF (Her sister) if I wont tell her. So did I screw things up?
I don't remember much, but her friend did confirm that things did get dirty.

So am I excused becasue I was drunk and she technically .. did abuse the opportunity? And how should I go on explaining it to my GF? I had no intention for sex. We are very open, and that friend is a close friend of her.

Yes its cheating. You fucked up being drunk isn't a excuse. Just like if u kill someone while drunk its still murder this is still cheating.

[Deleted]

This saturday my GF invited me and a friend over, we had a casual drinking night, watching movies.. She went to bed, me and her friend spent some time together, we had a bit too much to drink, and ended up having a explicit fun. Things happened, her sister came home, saw me naked in the guest room with her friend.

So thing's she will tell my GF (Her sister) if I wont tell her. So did I screw things up?
I don't remember much, but her friend did confirm that things did get dirty.

So am I excused becasue I was drunk and she technically .. did abuse the opportunity? And how should I go on explaining it to my GF? I had no intention for sex. We are very open, and that friend is a close friend of her.

This fault is both you and the friends, especially if it's as close a friend to your GF as you say.

But yeah, you've done goofed, there are no excuses for cheating.

[Ägallar]

quadruple low blow guys, no way to save my ass?
We've been together for more than 2 years, so it might cause some reactions.

You're trying to use alcohol as a scapegoat, and you're not likely to find sympathy.

As a person who's been married for a while, understands temptation, gets drunk around attractive (personality, physical, etc) women...there's just no room to say "the booze made me do it". They didn't. You chose to do it, and now you want someone to say it's okay because you feel bad for yourself.

Well, it's time to buck up, buttercup. You made a bad decision, and now you have 2 choices: act like an adult, apologize and take full responsibility OR blame the alcohol, and continue being a selfish person.

[Deleted]

You were drunk and the girl took advantage of you being inebriated.

How could you consent to sex if you were drunk?

You didn't cheat, you were raped.

Bullshit, a man drunk enough to get raped by a woman cannot "function", he cheated and is looking for ways to save his own hide.

[Jtbrig7390]

I drank too much, I did not have sex consensually.

Being drunk is no excuse. If u didn't try to stop the sex then u consented to it.

[Incandio]

But what about her friend? I was the part being drunk, I'm not sure how drunk she was. But I was a goner after the last shots.
It's a bit her fault for taking me to the room? No? I mean sure I messed up drinking, and getting drunk, but I never stripped off and engaged while I was sober.
I just woke up to her sister poking me and asking me what was going on. Later on we talked and I figured .. what happened.

As it was just the drink, presumably you'll be giving up the drink.

[Heywes]

Yes, its cheating if your drunk. Unless you were raped/taken advantage of. That would be the only way it isn't cheating.

[Bdatik]

I drank too much, I did not have sex consensually.

Are you saying you were raped, and if you are, are you going to report it?

[Squigglyo]

You are 100% in the wrong here.
If you had been driving drunk, you would be at fault.
If you had started a fight while drunk, your fault.
YOu slept with someone else while drunk, your fault.

Just because you were drunk and dont remember doesnt mean you didnt 'want it'. Your friend didnt 'force' you, you were drunk but you were willing.


You'll be lucky if your girlfriend 'understands' and stays with you. If that happens your only saving point will be to promise her you will never drink again. And dont try and blame everyone else when you talk to her... this is your fuck up, no one elses.