Geeez Bigzoman, sex isnt the be all to end all of a stable relationship.
Geeez Bigzoman, sex isnt the be all to end all of a stable relationship.
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Why in the world should a stable relationship be, especially when we consider the OPs age?
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Well if she isn't showing signs of being interested in having sex with you I think you're still safe in the wanting a relationship regard.
Prom isn't anything serious man. People go with people that aren't serious all the time. Say that a relationship isn't your goal atm, proceed, and see what happens.
Sex isnt something that should be rushed into, its better to wait and find a willing partner.
"Would you please let me join your p-p-party?
Promiscuous types tend to have lower self-esteem. Also being used just for sex tends to do that. In this context the girl is obviously looking for something more meaningful, but for some reason you keep pushing your way of life on them.
There's nothing wrong with wanting it. It's what you do with that desire. It's ultimately how you act and the kind of person you are that matters.
Because from what the OP has suggested, she wants a serious relationship. If she has feelings for him then it is very unlikely that they can go into a friends with benefits type deal. Friends with benefits => Relationship = easy. Relationship => friends with benefits = not easy. It's hard enough to be in a purely sexual relationship without someone catching feels.
So, it is likely that the only way he can hit it is if he manipulates her into thinking he wants a serious relationship.
If you're certain that you don't want to take things further, I think your best bet is to be honest and upfront with her. Try and be nice about it - but do try and make sure that she's clear on where she stands (or does not stand) with you. Speaking from my own experience, I find uncertainty and the feeling of being strung along to be worse than outright rejection.
You can offer to still go to prom with her as friends - best to leave that ball in her court and see what she wants to do about it, I think.
I would take relationship advice from Bigzoman with a pinch of salt. Sorry Bigzoman, but you seem pretty clueless beyond a 'hit it and quit it' kind of deal.
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I'll end this thread now with the conclusion of what happened. We had a nice long talk after school with each other and it turns out we both had the same exact feelings. We just wanted to be friends and not taking things any further since we didn't want to hurt each other. I told her I'd still like to take her to prom and she said she'd love to go still. I wasn't going to NOT take her to prom because her Junior Prom ticket sales already ended and we're not going to that, plus she already bought her dress. I'm not a douche-bag.
Anyways, that's the conclusion of this story. I'm officially single (Not like I wasn't REALLY single before) and I would like to thank everyone in this thread for the plethora of great advice and information that helped me get through this and hopefully will help me in the future.
You're all beautifully amazing people,
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Good luck and have fun at prom :3
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