Talking to this girl. Met her at the restaurant I work at. Both were dating ppl when we met last August, since then broke up with our g/fs and b/fs, now exclusively dating each other.
As per usual, we always share stories and talk about our past and present, a lot about ex's, a lot about friends. A lot about everything. We both have a lot of friends in common and come from the same town, so commonly talk about people we both know of all different ages.
Every1 once in a while she would tell stories about this one guy, few years older than her, usually involving him and her and their other friends. This guy used to hook up with one of her really good friends, but has since gone off to college and is just fisting around in some jew frat now(actually though). Kind of a ladies man, STUPID rich. Decent athlete, probably smooth with the chicks, but an egotistical dbag imo and most know him and accept him for that. Only interaction I have ever had with him face to face is when I was walking with said girl on the beach and we walked right by him playing volleyball. Granted they were in between points, but he just GRILLED the SHIT out of us and she proceeded to scurry forward a step and walked beside me to try and mask her blatant presence next to me from him. Really didn't think anything of it other than she and him used to be homies and had some type of fall out, and didn't want to be seen. Nothing against him, he's just the definition of a rich tool deusch and can piss off.
Like I said, they don't happen too often, but usually the stories would be about one time they were chillin or whatever and just some random shit happened with them and their friends, how he would spend so much fkn money at the club using daddy's black card, random stories, sometimes we just randomly rip on him for no blatant reason just as a fkn joke for no apparent reason. Standard harmless joking about friends with one another.
Just found out, 10 months after we starting hooking up and talking, that they've hooked up a few times, and she never mentioned that in an capacity. The only relationship she has ever described to me is that they used to be tight back when she was a Freshman and he was a Senior in HS, he is rich, they used to chill in a group with ppl, her close friend used to hook up with him, and that he just became weird and once she really got to know the kind of guy she was(arrogant and possessive and selfish). Never once mentioning the story she just told me which is...paraphrasing... That they hooked up a few times, and didn't mean anything at all, he made some type of massive self-loathing apology how it was his fault that things got weird and, my favorite part, "it wasn't important to her". I find this statement... frustrating. Wasn't important to her, sure, but what about what is important to me? I have perceived this little jew boy in one light as a former friend who turned dick, when I should have been perceiving him in another, the former friend who she hooked up with and still talked to sometimes, even though they don't hook up anymore. I feel... robbed kinda? When you hear stories about a person, someone you don't know especially, your mind begins to paint a picture of the individual, characterized by the description that your friend has given you, and illustrated furthermore by the character-traits and choices this person has made involving the person who is telling you these stories. After many stories, you feel like you know the person, or in a way at least your friend telling the story does. Just feeling that...my picture has been wrong for so long, and.. I'm not sure what to feel tbh lol.
Why wouldn't she have mentioned from day one what happened? and why create some type of facade that includes their relationship as friends just getting weird and growing apart? I truly don't even think I would have give a shit if i had known from square one, why would I? It's her past...but after all this time of random stories about him and frequent inside-joke slander and slew toward him, and never once mentioning they hooked up a few times?
He is in her past. I got it. But she never told me the truth about their past.
What...am I supposed to feel? :|
would love not to be trolled. feels are real...