Inner Beauty

[Celista]

My oldest cousin does that. He stays at home with the kids and the mom works. It works out great, especially since he's always been great with taking care of kids and was never thrilled with having to have a good job.

Yeah I'm not saying it *never* works...happiest couple I know were high school sweethearts, and she's been a stay at home mom since they had their firstborn.

[Deleted]

a mans inner beauty is his bank account

And more importantly, how much he can deadlift!

[Duridi]

I'm not going to think of them as attractive even if they look like Nicki Minaj.
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You find Nicki Minaj attractive?

Sorry, I just had to, because that's just a terrible example of beauty going by my standards .

[Lotus Victoria]

Inner beauty really doesn't exist, but you can fall in love with one's personality, as happened to me before.

[Spectral]

For women? Most men don't seem to care how much a woman makes. In fact, numerous studies have shown that relationships go south when the woman starts making more than the man does.

I can't say how I'd feel if I was with someone that made more than me, but I know that I very much like having a partner that also brings in a stable income. It makes life a lot easier to have a dual income household.

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You can blame both sexes for this one. Many men feel emasculated and become depressed, as they have been taught by society that their value lies in providing for their family. If the woman can provide for the family without him, his life is meaningless.

Of course, women have issues as well, along the same line. Society has taught women that men need to be "pulling their weight" or that they are losers, and if she is dating a loser she must also be a loser. So women who are making more than their husbands typically end up having lower self esteem as well. The end result is that couples have a lot less sex and many end up getting divorced. It sounds crazy and stupid but you can't fix generations of gender stereotypes so fast.

You may be conflating "society" and "gender stereotypes" with "evolved traits" and "stable cultures". You won't find a lot of cultures with long-term success and advancement that don't place value on men as providers.

[Lysah]

I can't say how I'd feel if I was with someone that made more than me, but I know that I very much like having a partner that also brings in a stable income. It makes life a lot easier to have a dual income household.

I agree, extra money is always nice.

You may be conflating "society" and "gender stereotypes" with "evolved traits" and "stable cultures". You won't find a lot of cultures with long-term success and advancement that don't place value on men as providers.

Well, it's only been very recent that society had the ability to do things differently.

[PizzaSHARK]

You find Nicki Minaj attractive?

Sorry, I just had to, because that's just a terrible example of beauty going by my standards .

Sure, she's hot, even if it's all just photoshop and professional makeup artists and stuff. I've seen her plastered on magazines etc so I guess she's considered hot. I'd say Angelina Jolie but that was like 10 years ago.

You may be conflating "society" and "gender stereotypes" with "evolved traits" and "stable cultures". You won't find a lot of cultures with long-term success and advancement that don't place value on men as providers.

Yeah, but modern society and the equality it brings hasn't been around for very long, relatively speaking. "Men as providers" doesn't make a lot of sense in the modern context.

[Lady Dragonheart]

For women? Most men don't seem to care how much a woman makes. In fact, numerous studies have shown that relationships go south when the woman starts making more than the man does.

I'm not really sure why that is unless the male is of the traditional mindset. Other than that, does it actually really matter?

[THE Bigzoman]

I'm not really sure why that is unless the male is of the traditional mindset. Other than that, does it actually really matter?

You're overcomplicating it.

Men just care less about realtive incomes that are lower than them. Women like men to make more, and men like women to be physically attractive.


When said woman makes more money, that dynamic switches and alienates the guy I imagine. I've heard some people say that that's one of the reasons why black men and women date each other less often. Black women are starting to earn more.

[Lysah]

I'm not really sure why that is unless the male is of the traditional mindset. Other than that, does it actually really matter?

It shouldn't, but you can't really change social indoctrination so easily.

I'm inclined to agree with Bigzo on this one, a lot of this just dates back to fundamental human instinct. Priorities for the different sexes are often not the same.