I never remember a time where I didn't know about death. Just straight up tell them the "cold hard truth", and it wouldn't hurt to tell them about what different people believe happens after death and to let them decide for themselves.
I never remember a time where I didn't know about death. Just straight up tell them the "cold hard truth", and it wouldn't hurt to tell them about what different people believe happens after death and to let them decide for themselves.
That's not entirely true. We're sentient creatures regardless of whether an adult informs us to be sentient.
We feel pain without the need of another human to tell us to feel it. We have an instinctual reaction to it, and very easily can develop our own fears purely based on our own experiences.
We're also sapient creatures, and without the need of adults can easily conduct the pattern analysis necessary to induce that our perceptions of other creatures dying can apply to ourselves.
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Some kids will be afraid without any adults to mimic, some will not. I don't think the nature of death should be lied about, but many children will absolutely need more comforting than others.
also untrue.
when abandoned the human body shuts down for no other reason than its alone. when young that means they die, when older that means they get restless as the need is warped into a sense of "purpose".
theres not much lit on the subject because you cant ethically, nowadays anyway, keep contact away from people, but what lit there is suggests that without societal structure humans shut down, they dont figure out things on their own.
I shouldn't have used spiders as an example, that was an error on my part. That is a rational fear that evolution has taught us to respect, unlike clowns or going outside.
For the record, I wasn't arguing that fear of death doesn't exist, I was arguing that if children don't witness others losing their shit over it, then they don't learn to lose their shit over it. They might still have the normal, healthy fear of the unknown, but not an irrational, unhealthy fear.
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I'm sure there's been studies done on these sorts of topics with Chimpanzees. I'd love to read about them.
There was an intriguing study done in the early 20th century where a couple raised a baby chimp alongside their son with the hope he'd learn english and become civilised. In the end the wife forced her husband to abandon the experiment when their son started speaking chimp. I think it'd be fascinating to see the results of an adult human who was raised by chimps and could effectively communicate their state of mind to humanity.
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Harry_Harlow
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Feral_child
the gist courtesy psych 201
You can teach truthful life lessons without being a dick.
People that coddle their kids basically force the rest of society to deal with their bullshit until someone calls them on it and they get all offended and sad because they can't accept criticism as a person..
Yes i understand there is genetics involved. But even when you tell someone with for instance Arachnophobia that the spider you hold in the hand that it is completely harmless and that it is probably more "afraid" of you, they most of the times panic if you want them to touch it.
I can understand that for instance for someone that is deathly afraid for bees and wasps and the like if they are allergic to their stings. since that actually can cause death.
A phobia is a type of anxiety disorder, usually defined as a persistent fear of an object or situation in which the sufferer commits to great lengths in avoiding, typically disproportional to the actual danger posed, often being recognized as irrational.
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an analogy may be overeating or overexercising
something that is typically healthy, fear, eating, exercising, taken to an extreme because of whatever reason leading to unhealthy behavior
When i was 4 i saw a truck drive over a dog infront of me, that occurrence gave me warning about how dangerous traffic is and that death exists. No explanation would have done better.
How and when to bring it depends on the child, but telling the truth is inevitable. Personally i disliked any sugarcoating that wasn't edible, even at young age, just tell me what is going on so i can deal with it, instead of telling me nonsense that i end up trying to make sense off.
I believe you misunderstood my post. I wasn't saying that humans could survive without other humans. I was saying that we don't have constant need of other humans to mimic. We're sentient and sapient, individually so. An adult doesn't need to inform us to feel pain. We can do so on our own.
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In any case, we can easily test the natural development of fears on other animals. And have with lab raised monkeys and various other experiments.
While a lab-raised monkey is not innately afraid of snakes, for instance, they will develop that fear more quickly than a fear of, say, flowers. And they can develop that fear without actually mimicking something else that is afraid of the snake. They will develop that fear purely through their own experiences (for instance, by being shown pictures of both snakes and flowers accompanied with electric shocks).
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I do not feel fear of death and i dont believe in the afterlife. My kids arent afraid of dying either, both were curious about what happened to my grand parents once they past away. They only expressed sadness when i mentioned me and their mother would die as well. Which is logical i had the same reaction when my mother explained death to me. Afterlife is a religious thing, they can decide that on their own, it is not part of death. Plus explaining to them religion is a topic one of them asked a little bit later.
Fortunately atheists don't have a lot of kids.
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"This will be a fight against overwhelming odds from which survival cannot be expected. We will do what damage we can."
-- Capt. Copeland
When my cat died, my 6 year old niece wanted to know where he'd gone. I told her he was old, and all old things eventually die, even us one day. She said "I'll miss him though" and carried on playing after I assured her that it's OK because we still have pictures of the cat to remember him. I don't see any point in giving her specifics or creating an existential crisis. She's accepted the explanation that it's inevitable for things to die, and that they eventually go away. I'm not a Christian, but maybe if she'd pressed me more I would have said he was in cat heaven or something.