Do people fear being alone?

[Detritivores]

My sister and her fiancé are like you 2. My sister was talking about her worst kind of day. She described it as a day that hes gone, and no one wants to hang out with her and she just has to sit in the house all by herself. The fiancé and I looked at eachother and laughed cause that is one of our best kind of days.

Haha we have the same experience. It was really challenging to balance our tendencies early in the relationship. She'd pack every hour of every day with activities and social events until I'd just get mean after extended periods without down time. It took her a while to understand that me enjoying having time alone was not a rejection of her or a lack of enjoyment in being with her. Just that I'm wired to be comfortable alone and need time to myself periodically. It's an almost unfathomable mind set though to someone like my wife or your sister. People are so interesting...

[Bollocks]

I don't think that is what people fear about being alone, but that "alone" is not the correct word either. Perhaps isolated is a better term. The fear of having no one at your side and just you. No one to talk to, listen to or whatever you do with someone else. And being truly alone means no internet as well.

[apepi]

Everyone needs the feeling of knowing others. Why would you be post here Bigzo? What is your reason?

[Detritivores]

Like most things its a spectrum, and theres "mixed" people who are both introverts and extroverts, I consider myself one.
I need my alone time, but at the same time I also enjoy spending time with friends, going to packed up festivals (fuck clubs though) and so forth.

Its... cyclic, one week or two weeks I can hardly be home other than sleep, then theres a week or two that id mostly stay home and avoid everyone, to the point of shutting cellphone down etc so I'm not disturbed.

But if I had to chose, only socialise and constantly be surrounded by people, or be mostly isolated with 1-2 people only, id pick being alone with few people.

Not to get nit-picky, but you're describing introversion, not a mix. Introverts enjoy socializing and doing stuff. It's the periodic need to spend time alone that characterizes introverts. And your preference for relative solitude with just a few people is classically introverted.

I agree with you that it's a spectrum, and there are definitely people that do not lean strongly in either direction. But I just wanted to comment on the misconception that enjoying socialization is not an introverted thing to do. It 100% is. If you have no desire to socialize, then we're getting into social anxiety disorders and stuff. It's just the desire to be alone from time to time to recharge that characterizes introverts.

[Vzz]

I live together with my GF (yes, girlfriend) since almost 17 years now. She has get used to my lone wolf life style. I like to care on everything alone (our home finance, law/taxes, work management - yeah, I find work for her too) and she's this kind of person who likes to do those simple house things which I hate. We usually speak rarely with each other during the week. But sometimes we have some blowing 2-3 hours on the weekends when we actually spend time together very intensively.

Thanks to that I can focus on my sport trainings (gym, triathlon, football), on my diet and have bunch of free time for computer gaming. And she has time to paint, read books and play other games too.

It works well so far. It's like double lone wolf type of life.

[Independent voter]

I both like and dislike being alone. When I'm doing something that requires concentration, I don't want to be bothered. But other times I don't mind being brought a sandwich or discussing something I found funny on the internet or something she found interesting, etc. I wouldn't want to always be alone.

[Drunkenfinn]

I live with a roommate and we both strut around naked all the time (mostly in and out of the shower, though), why should being naked be exclusive to people living alone? Then again I'm from Finland and nakedness is not really a big thing here, unlike for example in the US.

Come to think of it... I've only truly lived alone like 2 years or so out of my 27 of being alive... Lived with family until 19 and then moved out and lived mostly with roommates ever since.

Though I did enjoy my time living alone, as well.

[Halyon]

I think you mean loneliness. Being alone is usually not a big deal to anyone, relative to timespan, but loneliness on the other hand doesn't have anything to do with being alone neccessarily.

You could be in the most populated place on earth and still feel utterly alone. That's loneliness. You could also live like a hermit and never feel lonely. Your points touch on both, but it's an important distinction as they're def. not the same.

[Alexeht]

Everything OP said is true, but I personally fear being alone in world overrun by people, but if there would be no other people I would not mind being alone. I subconsciously require mental support of my friends mostly when someone upsets me, so if I would live somewhere in wilderness I don't think being alone would have any cons. Also someone could say we are never alone these days since internet surrounds us and even me typing this post is a 'social' experience. Imagine scenario YOU vs World, where only person you could talk to is yourself - imo that would be real meaning of being alone.

I think you mean loneliness. Being alone is usually not a big deal to anyone, relative to timespan, but loneliness on the other hand doesn't have anything to do with being alone neccessarily.

You could be in the most populated place on earth and still feel utterly alone. That's loneliness. You could also live like a hermit and never feel lonely. Your points touch on both, but it's an important distinction as they're def. not the same.

Agreed

[Annoying]

Like most things its a spectrum, and theres "mixed" people who are both introverts and extroverts, I consider myself one.
I need my alone time, but at the same time I also enjoy spending time with friends, going to packed up festivals (fuck clubs though) and so forth.

Its... cyclic, one week or two weeks I can hardly be home other than sleep, then theres a week or two that id mostly stay home and avoid everyone, to the point of shutting cellphone down etc so I'm not disturbed.

But if I had to chose, only socialise and constantly be surrounded by people, or be mostly isolated with 1-2 people only, id pick being alone with few people.

That's likely just being introverted. That sounds exactly like what almost all introverts require. Recharge battery, drain battery, repeat.

[THE Bigzoman]

People, in the circumstances you gave, tend to behave in 2 distinct patterns: as a predator or as prey.

The predator cherishes moments alone, where he/she can put some order in one's thoughts without the interference of random idiots, but nonetheless spends time with others to learn from other "predators" or to observe various "victim patterns". This person is the modern version of the hunter-trapper if you wish and loves sitting in dim light or no light at all.

People that fall in the category of "prey" start to panic when they are alone, fear the dark, traits that we all have at an early age, but that are lost by "predators". These people will always be co-dependent to another person or group of people and will always prefer places with lots of lighting and even exagerrate with the lighting of their own home.

The rest is bullshit imo, yes you can explore the various facets using the media where everyone is lying more or less... (except extremely horny students :P).

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No, people that like having random people around have a herd-like behaviour that gives them a sense of security. Predatory-like people tend to socialize with people they can use as partners and share the spoils, whether it's a business or just hooking up with girls, the partnership can pause at any moment without the "predators" being very affected by it. But the "prey"-like person freaks out when their co-dependency leaves. And yes many people get married because they need a co-dependency transfer from their parents to their husband (mostly women as i've seen) when they realise the mortality of their parents they "abandon ship" and take a bold leap of faith with marriage (gratz on that kinda).

Holy crap the bolded describes me perfectly.

When I do socialise, there is always a purpose for me.

It's weird, i've conditioned myself to think WIFFIM (what's in it for me) before any interaction or any action I do with/for someone in my network

[Deleted]

Prefer? No

Desire some me-time sometimes? Of course

[THE Bigzoman]

Everyone needs the feeling of knowing others. Why would you be post here Bigzo? What is your reason?

What Rapbreon describes mainly. To shoot/exchange my ideas on an unsuspecting populace

[Deleted]

I don't fear being alone because I never am

you always have your sex drive?

[Cannibalus]

I don't fear being alone because I never am

Voices in your head don't count :P

[NeonX]

I don't mind being alone, but I do hate being lonely.

[Fencers]

Humans fear their insignificance. The acknowledgement of other beings that suffer the human condition is what humans actually seek in others.

By in large humans are cowardly in their absurd existance.

Perhaps the television show Rick & Morty said it best: "Don't run."Nobody exists on purpose, nobody belongs anywhere, everybody's gonna die. Come watch TV."

Utimately, humans just want someone or something to watch TV or the sunset next to them.

You are but dust.

[Kourvith]

Being alone can be very refreshing, and reinforcing. But it can become quite boring, once you've rounded you up. (so it can depend on maturity I guess). I like the fact that everyone is different, hence a potential new point of view on everything, it's also refreshing (or enriching).

[Bigbazz]

Some people do, some people don't. Personally I spend most of my time alone and I enjoy the peace, I have time for friends and family of course but being alone does not bother me, I don't really even think about it.. If anything when I spend a lot of time with people I like to follow that up with being alone for some time to center myself and recharge.