What would you do in this situation.

[blankfaced]

I threw a party for New Years Eve and verbally invited my friends (5 people and their s/o's), all of whom said yes they would be there. The night of the party no one showed and no one called or messaged to inform me they wouldn't be showing up (a few of them i even messaged that night to remind them). I'm now finding out one of the friends threw a party of their own (of which i wasn't invited to). None of the others have attempted to give excuses. I've pretty much put them all on mute for lack of a better term.

Would you give them another chance.
Tell them to go screw themselves.
Keep ignoring them till they go away.

It's just getting old being peoples last resort to use when they're bored or when they have a birthday and want a gift.

[Mentia]

I threw a party for New Years Eve and verbally invited my friends (5 people and their s/o's), all of whom said yes they would be there. The night of the party no one showed and no one called or messaged to inform me they wouldn't be showing up (a few of them i even messaged that night to remind them). I'm now finding out one of the friends threw a party of their own (of which i wasn't invited to). None of the others have attempted to give excuses. I've pretty much put them all on mute for lack of a better term.

Would you give them another chance.
Tell them to go screw themselves.
Keep ignoring them till they go away.

It's just getting old being peoples last resort to use when they're bored or when they have a birthday and want a gift.

Get new friends because they obviously don't think much of you.

[Independent voter]

That's a tough situation. I have friends I can't count on and friends I can count on, the ones I can't count on I might invite them but it's a coin toss as whether or not they show. Could be that your friends are all the kind you can't count on. There's a lot that can be going on and it's hard to say what it is from your post.

If your car battery were dead, would any of your friends show up with jumper cables when you called them?

[Lenonis]

Wow...assuming that story is true and not leaving out details, that's a really really awful thing that your friends did.

And, gotta side with Mentia on this one -- they aren't your friends. Find new ones.

If there is a lot of history there and they are good friends, confront them. Find out their side of the story. If they don't have a realllllllly good reason then you should move on.

[Damajin]

Move on, just like they did. No point in being a clinger.

[Lenonis]

I have friends I can't count on and friends I can count on

There is a difference though between being a flake and accepting an invite to a party, then throwing your own, and not inviting the person who invited you, or even giving them a courtesy heads up.

[Celista]

Verbal invitation sounds pretty casual, sounds to me like you're overreacting. Did you even try to confirm before the party?

If it becomes a pattern then it would be appropriate to drop them, but you can try being a mature adult and talking to them about it first. Instead of acting like a major drama queen.

[Deleted]

You can still keep them but remember that they are second rate at best, meaning you put just as little into your relationship as them.

[Damajin]

Verbal invitation sounds pretty casual, sounds to me like you're overreacting. Did you even try to confirm before the party?

If it becomes a pattern then it would be appropriate to drop them, but you can try being a mature adult and talking to them about it first. Instead of acting like a major drama queen.

He mentioned that he tried to get confirmation they were coming that very night.

[Jotaux]

Well I hate to tell you but it sounds like you don't have friends. These people are just using you.

[Taeldorian]

I threw a party for New Years Eve and verbally invited my friends (5 people and their s/o's), all of whom said yes they would be there. The night of the party no one showed and no one called or messaged to inform me they wouldn't be showing up (a few of them i even messaged that night to remind them). I'm now finding out one of the friends threw a party of their own (of which i wasn't invited to). None of the others have attempted to give excuses. I've pretty much put them all on mute for lack of a better term.
Would you give them another chance.
Tell them to go screw themselves.
Keep ignoring them till they go away.

It's just getting old being peoples last resort to use when they're bored or when they have a birthday and want a gift.

I'd just find new friends. Easier said than done obviously but if that's how everything actually played out, your friends don't seem to think much of you. Not saying that's bad, helps you see whose your friend and who isn't a lot easier. If you wanna avoid drama I'd say just find new friends. If you wanna ask them why they did that though you could, see what kind of answer they give but that could cause something so, up to you. That's what I'd do 100%.

[IIamaKing]

Around 33 or so my wife and I just gave up on friends. We have 2 couples we go to meals with occasionally, others wise its family.

I would certainly write off the guy who didn't come and then had his own party that you were uninvited to.

[Celista]

He mentioned that he tried to get confirmation they were coming that very night.

Well if they said they were coming and flaked then that sucks, more likely his friends gave him a "hey we'll try to make it" half-assed response and the OP is overreacting.

[endersblade]

I threw a party for New Years Eve and verbally invited my friends (5 people and their s/o's), all of whom said yes they would be there. The night of the party no one showed and no one called or messaged to inform me they wouldn't be showing up (a few of them i even messaged that night to remind them). I'm now finding out one of the friends threw a party of their own (of which i wasn't invited to). None of the others have attempted to give excuses. I've pretty much put them all on mute for lack of a better term.

Would you give them another chance.
Tell them to go screw themselves.
Keep ignoring them till they go away.

It's just getting old being peoples last resort to use when they're bored or when they have a birthday and want a gift.

Those aren't friends.

[ellieg]

Sounds like they aren't your friends lol.

[Dug]

Make new friends cause those are lame as hell.

[unbound]

Time for new friends...simple as that.

[Teleros]

Get new friends because they obviously don't think much of you.

If they can't even be bothered to say anything about it to you, they're not exactly friends.

[Felya]

It's been nearly 3 months and you still hold a grudge. That's all that you should need...

[Dug]

It's been nearly 3 months and you still hold a grudge. That's all that you should need...

Pretty sure OP just found out about the other party he wasn't invited to