Are you flirtatious by nature

[Reeve]

I only do it when I feel confident the other person is receptive.

Flirting is how you find out if the other person is receptive.

[Gamdwelf]

Flirting is inherently intentional and thus, isn't something one does without knowing they're doing it. I do it because it's fun.

It's unintentional and constant for me.

[Mistame]

It's unintentional and constant for me.

It's not flirting if it's "unintentional".

[Arganis]

Flirting is how you find out if the other person is receptive.

There's other signs and I wait for those before I try selling my junk in any way.

[Deleted]

There's other sign and I wait for those before I try selling my junk in any way.

Curious - how successful is that method

[Reeve]

There's other sign and I wait for those before I try selling my junk in any way.

Flirtation usually doesn't involve "selling your junk," at least until late in the game.

[Bathory]

Extremely. Bad? Not really. It's not like I'm not aware of it or have an inability to turn it off when I need to.

[Gamdwelf]

It's not flirting if it's "unintentional".

Well other people say I'm flirting.

[Mistame]

Well other people say I'm flirting.

To which you reply, "We'd both know if I was flirting."

[Kathandira]

It's not flirting if it's "unintentional".

Flirting can absolutely be unintentional. This is due to the reception of the person you are speaking to. They may consider it flirting, while you might consider it small talk. I've had this happen plenty of times.

[Archon14]

The words I have to use for it constantly pop up in my head, but I never end up using them. So I guess, yes and no? Natural, but lack of interest/confidence?

I don't think it's a bad thing. Maybe the purpose/context/timing could be bad, but flirting itself isn't.

[Reeve]

It's not flirting if it's "unintentional".

Flirting can absolutely be unintentional.

[Mistame]

Flirting can absolutely be unintentional. This is due to the reception of the person you are speaking to. They may consider it flirting, while you might consider it small talk. I've had this happen plenty of times.

Flirting is an intentional expression of one's interest in someone. Whether or not that person perceives your behavior as flirting or not is irrelevant. If you don't know if you're flirting, you're not.

[Deleted]

I find people unable to flirt awkward

Had awkward dates where flirting was onesided despite them actually interested... WTF, if you're interested flirt

[Reeve]

Flirting is an intentional expression of one's interest in someone. Whether or not that person perceives your behavior as flirting or not is irrelevant.

It's absolutely relevant. I remember being at a party where a girl was flirting with me all night long. Everyone at the party noticed this. I flirted back, since she was actually extremely attractive. Turns out her boyfriend was also at the party, a fact I didn't know until he "confronted me" by grabbing me by my jacket's lapels and pushing me into the wall. It was a laughable confrontation, since I was a foot taller than him, outweighed him by a good 40 pounds, and was surrounded by 3 of my equally large friends. I apologized, though, since I had no intention of trying to steal the guy's girlfriend. She swears up and down she wasn't intending to flirt, but she was DEFINITELY flirting.

[Archon14]

She swears up and down she wasn't intending to flirt, but she was DEFINITELY flirting.

Problem is that some people keep flirting too much after they're already in a relationship. It's even worse because her bf was there. She probably likes making her bf jealous, or she knows he wants to punch random people. Either way, it's not flirting that's bad, it's the context/timing.

[Mistame]

It's absolutely relevant.

It's really not. If you're just conversing "normally" with someone and they perceive your tone/behavior as "flirtatious" then their perception is irrelevant, as the deciding factor is your intent.

I remember being at a party where a girl was flirting with me all night long. Everyone at the party noticed this. I flirted back, since she was actually extremely attractive. Turns out her boyfriend was also at the party, a fact I didn't know until he "confronted me" by grabbing me by my jacket's lapels and pushing me into the wall. It was a laughable confrontation, since I was a foot taller than him, outweighed him by a good 40 pounds, and was surrounded by 3 of my equally large friends. I apologized, though, since I had no intention of trying to steal the guy's girlfriend. She swears up and down she wasn't intending to flirt, but she was DEFINITELY flirting.

Sounds like a cop-out to save face with her boyfriend, honestly. I suppose an exception could made when intoxication is involved, but still, you know when you're flirting.

Edit: You should have told that guy, "Look, I won't play in another man's yard, but if she climbs the fence I'm putting her ass to work."

[Belize]

God no. Leave me the fuck alone.

[Arganis]

Curious - how successful is that method

Usually it's successful, honestly. But then again I'm not selling anything that wasn't already sold. Just going in for the kill, so to speak.

Flirtation usually doesn't involve "selling your junk," at least until late in the game.

By selling my junk I don't just mean my literal junk. As a general rule I don't like to market myself like a piece of meat.

[Gamdwelf]

I find people unable to flirt awkward

Had awkward dates where flirting was onesided despite them actually interested... WTF, if you're interested flirt

What's flirting?