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Hey, dont know if this is even allowed to post here but I have no one to ask so here it goes.
Im in love with my best friend but he rejected me. Shortly after I got rejected I met another guy and things developed and I believe he fits all my standards and he seems perfect in every way, good looking and he truly loves me it seems but I dont seem to get over my best friend and get proper feelings for the second guy...
I dont know what to do or who to "choose". It feels like I am faking my feelings for the second guy cause I know hes good for me. I want to be in love with him but how can I possibly force that. I need help :/
It hurts me to love someone who doesnt love me and at the same time faking love for someone that loves me.
Also Im worried if I go for the second person, I would fall in love with someone else in time over and over again but not for him.
Should I love the person I love or the person who loves me?
What would you have done?
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2016-05-15, 03:08 AM #1Bloodsail Admiral
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Choosing between two people
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2016-05-15, 03:19 AM #2Sparklepony
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Don't choose the person who rejected you. See if your feelings develop with the second guy or find someone else.
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2016-05-15, 03:19 AM #3Herald of the Titans
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This happens a lot, it always reminds me of that old song. "You love her, but she loves him, and he loves somebody else, you just can't win."
In life you'll likely find yourself on both sides of that situation in a one-way love relationship, but in the end it only works if you both love each other.
Also, love in a relationship can work in cruel ways since feelings change over time and sometimes love is a changing thing, and if your feelings don't match up at the same time it won't work. For example, I once dated a girl for ~6 months, the first 3 months I was head-over-heels butterflies in-love with her. But it was clear she didn't feel the same, and it broke my heart tbh about 3 months in when I realized it probably was just one-way since she was still seeing other guys and wanted an "open" relationship. I realized I was going to have to avoid my heartache by changing my feelings for her. We were still dating though and finally broke up a few months later, and when we broke up and over those last 3 months I realized she eventually had fallen in love with me and was wanting an exclusive relationship (and had cut off everything with other guys), but by then I had lost my feelings for her. So sometimes paths just cross that unfortunate way.
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2016-05-15, 03:20 AM #4Titan
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No, stop stringing him along.
Originally Posted by Celista
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2016-05-15, 03:21 AM #5Sparklepony
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Hey, it happens (see reply below that post). Originally Posted by Ripster42
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2016-05-15, 03:22 AM #6Banned
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Stop being so needy and learn to love yourself first.
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2016-05-15, 03:22 AM #7Pandaren Monk
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You should move onto a third person. Originally Posted by melkesjokolade
The first doesn't love you, you don't love the second.
You seem to want mutual love? Move onto a third person. Take time to get over the first.
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2016-05-15, 03:24 AM #8Bloodsail Admiral
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Thanks for the answers guys
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2016-05-15, 03:28 AM #9The Unstoppable Force
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Basically this. You can not force yourself or others to love. You ether have it or not. But you may grow to love the second guy. Give it a chance, but be up front and honest with him. Let him know, you like him , but at this time, do not love him ,yet you would like to see how your relationship will grow. Never say " I love you" to anyone unless you know you mean it. Originally Posted by Celista
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2016-05-15, 03:40 AM #10The Unstoppable Force
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The way I see it, if the first guy has rejected you and you don't think he will change his mind, then "choosing" him is not really an option, is it? As for the second guy... I don't know. I would say "no" to someone I'm not sure about, since a lot of things are at stake and there is a potential for someone to seriously be hurt in a non-genuine relationship.
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2016-05-15, 04:11 AM #11Bloodsail Admiral
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Too late :| Originally Posted by Ghostpanther
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First guy rejected me cause hes not ready for a relationship yet and he says he likes me but I dont really know if he feels anything, he probably doesnt but idk if it could develop. Originally Posted by May90
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2016-05-15, 04:11 AM #12The Insane
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Always pick the guy with the most sauce.
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2016-05-15, 04:28 AM #13Sparklepony
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>.> Originally Posted by Gheld
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What sort of sauce are we talking about here?
*looks around suspiciously*
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It's always hard to know when that's a line and when it's not, isn't it? He might feel something for you but in any case it's a bad idea to wait around for people like that. Funnily enough people like that often become "ready" when you're no longer available and interested in them :/ Originally Posted by melkesjokolade
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2016-05-15, 04:59 AM #14Deleted
Seems pretty gay tbh
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2016-05-15, 05:10 AM #15Old God
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Sometimes you want someone and they reject you, but they reject you because they are jealous of how you seem to prioritize someone else. Are you ABSOLUTELY sure your best friend rejected you? Or were they just jealous or was something in the way? You might as well straight up tell your best friend how you feel and be 100% direct and ask if they are not interested or if there is something holding them back that can be resolved. Or just assume they don't like you and miss out.
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What COULD be happening is that he has decided he likes you but NOW you've jumped to another guy so now he is REALLY going to back off and reassess. You may have damaged it permanently by introducing a second guy.TO FIX WOW:1. smaller server sizes & server-only LFG awarding satchels, so elite players help others. 2. "helper builds" with loom powers - talent trees so elite players cast buffs on low level players XP gain, HP/mana, regen, damage, etc. 3. "helper ilvl" scoring how much you help others. 4. observer games like in SC to watch/chat (like twitch but with MORE DETAILS & inside the wow UI) 5. guild leagues to compete with rival guilds for progression (with observer mode).6. jackpot world mobs.
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