No Sex Before Marriage

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I have great respect for people who set up such a tough challenge for themselves.

[twh]

It's nothing like in movies, netflix crap, romance novels, erotica...nothing like it at all.. It is VERY overrated and nothing all that special. I've had the most incredible sexual experiences alone. As a married man, the desire (both hers an mine) dries up quickly. Kids come along and the intimacy of any kind is pretty much gone. Is it like this with everyone? Probably not. But I feel most put so much emphasis on sex, when in reality, it might be neat at first, but it doesn't last.

[AwkwardSquirtle]

people have sec on their wedding night?

They do if they've never done it before, and now finally can.

I believe in it, I'm Christian, as do most of the people I know. It's very much still a thing in Christian culture.

[BannedForViews]

Don't know anyone who has done that, but i respect it.

Some people view the world as "overly sexualized" (porn, sexualized content, DTF in discos, "dating" apps, etc..) and try to abstain a bit from it.

But i honestly must ask... How will they keep being married if the sex is bad?

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Plus this ^

were you the one guy that hit a homer on his first go? Did the ladies line up to hsve you clean their pipes cause you were so amazing at it? Being "good" at sex is about practice and listening to your partner. They'll figure it out.

[Deleted]

Well sure, some people are asexual so I don't see anything really weird with it.

The only thing I find weird is why people see a need to judge or know what other people do sexually? Or why people see a need to express their active sex life all over the Internet.

[Medusa Cascade]

Just turn one of those numbing condoms inside out and they'll never know

[BannedForViews]

My current girlfriend told me on like date 2 that she wasn't having sex before marriage. Then she said 2 years, then 1 year, then 6 months, then 2 months, then "fuck it, maybe this weekend". This happened over about a month's time, maybe a little longer.

I believe waiting for marriage is an awful idea. What if you just aren't compatible sexually? It happens. Just like never actually living with a person and marrying them. Sorry but you don't really know someone until you live with them.

Sounds like dabut.

Seriously though, not being compatability is a personality and goals thing. Not clicking sexually is a practice thing.

[Deleted]

people have sec on their wedding night?

I'm not sure how people can. Every wedding I have been too, being Northern Irish, the bride and groomsman were absolutely shit faced. Maybe the woman can, but when I am in the same state as the groomsman, I pass out as soon as my head hits a pillow (never mind getting it up).

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Sounds like dabut.

Seriously though, not being compatability is a personality and goals thing. Not clicking sexually is a practice thing.

I never understood that as well. I mean ofc you could have different sexual drives and maybe fetishes but if that's what drives you relationship, then it's not a real relationship but rather just a "booty call". And given the fact that in a relationship you spend like 99% of the time not having sex would be wierd to just focus on sex.

[General Junos]

To each his own. I, personally, don't know anyone who actually did it/tried it. However, my mother thought both my sister and I, when we got married, (36 and 24 respectively, at the time) were both virgins. She was -very much- into the whole "no sex before marriage!" bit, and actually believed we did as much. Uhm, no. Just, no. You want to do it, go for it, I don't give a rat's ass. But it's the 21st century. Sex is no where -near- as taboo as it once was, and is actually quite good for your health.

[Mifuyne]

Oh religion..
You are funny.

[May90]

I don't think I know such a person personally (how often do you talk with people about such things anyway?), but I've met a few religious people like that. Never quite understood their reasoning, but, well, to each their own!

[Cerus]

Lots of people still believe in it for various reasons. Safe to assume you don't know the entire population or their reproductive beliefs.

[Guyv3r]

were you the one guy that hit a homer on his first go? Did the ladies line up to hsve you clean their pipes cause you were so amazing at it? Being "good" at sex is about practice and listening to your partner. They'll figure it out.

You misunderstood me. The badness of the sex can have lots of factors.

Sexual Compatibility
People have different libidos and don't always like the same things sexually. It's not always as easy as "They'll figure it out".

Edit - If one can have great sex with a someone else, why settle for the "not so good sex"?

[Reeve]

They do if they've never done it before, and now finally can.

I believe in it, I'm Christian, as do most of the people I know. It's very much still a thing in Christian culture.

I understand it may be a thing in Christian culture, though I think it's a holdover from a time before birth control, but as far as I can tell there's nothing in the Bible that explicitly prohibits sex before marriage. All the stuff I've seen on the subject relies on interpreting a particular passage that basically says marriage can be a safeguard against sexual immorality as meaning sex outside of marriage is always immoral. But I see that as a square vs. rectangle thing. If sex within marriage can be a safeguard against sexual immorality, it doesn't necessarily follow that ALL sex outside of marriage is immoral.

Besides, we live in very different times today than people did back in biblical times, with better sexual health programs, prophylactics, birth control, etc. Just like God in the Bible changes his mind on stuff as situations change, is it unreasonable to think he might not object as strongly when sex outside of marriage is less likely to spread disease and result in children without families? I mean most Christians don't seem to have any issue with eating bacon or shellfish nowadays.

[minteK917]

Lmao if someone professed this where i live, they wouldnt hear the end of it. Sounds like the most stupid thing to do. Lets have some terrible akward teenager sex as adults on our wedding night. Sounds nice. The only nice thing about my wedding night is that wedding dress are fun as hell to undress out of and her jartels under it were damn sexy. So its pretty much is just a role play night for normal couples.

[Enthusiastic Steward]

I'm not sure how people can. Every wedding I have been too, being Northern Irish, the bride and groomsman were absolutely shit faced. Maybe the woman can, but when I am in the same state as the groomsman, I pass out as soon as my head hits a pillow (never mind getting it up).

After the ceremony and a photo set we had about 90 min before the reception started, so we checked into our hotel and brought our overnight stuff in. Realizing by the end of the night we were both going to be exhausted and/or pretty tipsy, that's when the sex happened. I'd recommend doing it that way.

[Ripster42]

None of my fellow Bongs do, but I do know a couple of Americans that do.

Why are bongs getting married or having sex? Frankly, HOW do bongs have sex?

[Reeve]

were you the one guy that hit a homer on his first go? Did the ladies line up to hsve you clean their pipes cause you were so amazing at it? Being "good" at sex is about practice and listening to your partner. They'll figure it out.

Sexual compatibility is about more than just practice and trying to do what your partner wants. If a girl really gets into something kinky like false-rape scenes, but the guy is absolutely repulsed by it, that's probably not going to end up much fun for either party at the end of the day. Same thing vice versa. If one of the people likes very active athletic sex and the other person is naturally very passive in bed, even if the passive person tries to be more active, it's usually not the same. I know a girl who's asexual. She occasionally has sex because it's expected in her relationship, but it's something she really very much doesn't enjoy. In that situation, it doesn't matter how much she's "practicing" or "listening" to her partner. He's going to sense that she's not enjoying it, which probably won't be much fun for him.

And that's if both people in the couple are truly willing to try to make that stuff work. Often what happens instead is that one of the people just decides they aren't all that into sex with their partner, and that it's just something they have to "put up with" in order to enjoy the other benefits of their relationship.

Personally, I'd rather find someone I'm sexually compatible with. It doesn't have to be a perfect match, but if we start on opposite ends of the sexual spectrum, it's probably going to be a recipe for sexual dissatisfaction.

All I'm trying to say is that to chalk up sexual compatibility to something that can be fixed simply by listening to your partner and practicing is not always true.

[Rezhial]

Sounds like dabut.

Seriously though, not being compatability is a personality and goals thing. Not clicking sexually is a practice thing.

While I understand what you are saying, there are plenty of cases where there can be a gap in sexual compatibility. Someone already mentioned it but libidos play a large role. That's not exactly something that practice will fix.