Something I realized about the 'So Called" fairer sex

[KayRule]

Have you ever noticed how women will refer to the tone of others as "Matter of factly," with a sneer, or a scoff? How they seem to look down on speaking in such a way with distaste, perhaps even disgust? As you can probably guess, this sort of reaction is of course unique to women. It serves as an interesting example of the differences in the way their minds work.

Men would never have such a reaction, obviously. For a man, a tone or choice of words that reflects and promotes logic, reason, and sanity would be a preferred one. Men find themselves comfortable in such environments, it is something they're familiar with, and in fact a state of mind that they naturally strive for. To speak 'matter of factly' as a man would mean achieving a goal for themselves, if not merely meeting the standards expected of them. To be spoken to 'matter of factly' as a man would mean that their partner is, at the moment, equal to them in their capacity for rational discussion.
But for women, such a way of speaking is offensive. They find logic and reason threatening. When rationality is brought to the forefront of a conversation, women must confront the fact that they are inadequate in this way of thinking. They become defensive in the face of this realization. In the logical brain of a man this sort of defensiveness, should it occur, would manifest itself as an articulate, well-reasoned, opposing viewpoint to whatever is putting them into a defensive position. In the more emotional and reactionary brain of a woman, though, it manifests itself instead as a series of feelings and emotions that cannot be processed on an intellectual level. So, rather than finding this way of speaking to be comfortable, and rather than being able to express clearly and rationally that it makes them uncomfortable and why, they reject it entirely. They shut down, attempting to invalidate the tone of voice and everything it conveys. They act as though it is something to be embarrassed about, as if it were something beneath them. It is the only way they can manage the plethora of feelings it invokes within them - to condemn and suppress it, and to make themselves feel as though they are the one in the right despite the fact that they could never support that argument logically.

Keep this in mind next time you overhear a woman say something along the lines of "And then he said, like, all matter-of-factly..." and take note of the clear disdain she has for the man in her story and the way that he spoke. You'll know, now, why she feels this way despite the fact that you could never feel so negatively about such a tone of voice.

As an aside, what I've just described is also the basis behind the current trend of talking men down for "Mansplaining." Consider the phenomenon I've described here, and then apply it to over-the-net communications. Rather than having a tone of voice to inaccurately blame for their inadequacies, they can only blame the words themselves. It all has to do with their natural reaction to being confronted with reason and logic.

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[Noomz]

Have you ever noticed how women will refer to the tone of others as "Matter of factly," with a sneer, or a scoff? How they seem to look down on speaking in such a way with distaste, perhaps even disgust? As you can probably guess, this sort of reaction is of course unique to women. It serves as an interesting example of the differences in the way their minds work.

Men would never have such a reaction, obviously. For a man, a tone or choice of words that reflects and promotes logic, reason, and sanity would be a preferred one. Men find themselves comfortable in such environments, it is something they're familiar with, and in fact a state of mind that they naturally strive for. To speak 'matter of factly' as a man would mean achieving a goal for themselves, if not merely meeting the standards expected of them. To be spoken to 'matter of factly' as a man would mean that their partner is, at the moment, equal to them in their capacity for rational discussion.
But for women, such a way of speaking is offensive. They find logic and reason threatening. When rationality is brought to the forefront of a conversation, women must confront the fact that they are inadequate in this way of thinking. They become defensive in the face of this realization. In the logical brain of a man this sort of defensiveness, should it occur, would manifest itself as an articulate, well-reasoned, opposing viewpoint to whatever is putting them into a defensive position. In the more emotional and reactionary brain of a woman, though, it manifests itself instead as a series of feelings and emotions that cannot be processed on an intellectual level. So, rather than finding this way of speaking to be comfortable, and rather than being able to express clearly and rationally that it makes them uncomfortable and why, they reject it entirely. They shut down, attempting to invalidate the tone of voice and everything it conveys. They act as though it is something to be embarrassed about, as if it were something beneath them. It is the only way they can manage the plethora of feelings it invokes within them - to condemn and suppress it, and to make themselves feel as though they are the one in the right despite the fact that they could never support that argument logically.

Keep this in mind next time you overhear a woman say something along the lines of "And then he said, like, all matter-of-factly..." and take note of the clear disdain she has for the man in her story and the way that he spoke. You'll know, now, why she feels this way despite the fact that you could never feel so negatively about such a tone of voice.

As an aside, what I've just described is also the basis behind the current trend of talking men down for "Mansplaining." Consider the phenomenon I've described here, and then apply it to over-the-net communications. Rather than having a tone of voice to inaccurately blame for their inadequacies, they can only blame the words themselves. It all has to do with their natural reaction to being confronted with reason and logic.

So when did your main account get banned and what was the name of it?

[Deleted]

Good to know, thanks for sharing.

[Deleted]

I'm terrified and unable to respond logically
can't breath
halp

[Crissi]

This is not an acceptable thread

Closing