how to be offensive:
- always play with
http://www.wowhead.com/?spell=20164, and keep melee hitting a target, it can actually make a difference in a game, because you are interrupting a heal
- use stun as often as possible (watch the DR's and insigina cooldowns (ie, stun right after it has been used)
- make sure you know that you have the best mana regen of any healer with seal of wisdom and meleeing a pet or something. therefore you can:
-spam dispell your partner when nothign is happening (for dks, works great against destro locks, and other classes)
-use your dmg abilities on cooldown., even concetration taunt, and fear undead,
-fake cast often. !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
but most of all make sure your partner doesn't die. it is more important, and easier, to improve your healing/survivability than to improve your offensiveness.
now for gear:
try a different specc, without imp BoW, and taking Imp Rightous fury.
get the libram with frost badges
use a different meta gem: 25 sp + chance to get mana on cast
enchant cloak: 23 haste instead of 15
enchant chest: 10 stats instead of 10 mp5
enchant boots: at least get the 12 hit/12 crit enchant if you keep that speed meta gem, but you should go for tuskar's vitality(speed)
I wouldn't gem int, but since you have been playing this comp, and I haven't, maybe you actually need more mana to regen better, I wouldn't know. but most holy pallies go for sp/int 50/50, and for blue=stam
OMG you have 0 hit!! wtf is this! just because you are a paladin doesn't mean you have to be THAT defensive. I'm at 4.1% and I very frequently see misses on stuns, that would have made my mate get the kill.
oh and another mistake you might have made, don't upgrade to relentless. go for wrathful set pieces right away.
(ie, it's better to have Relentless-furious-furious-wrathful) than to have 4x relentless
in conclusion: ask holy pallies of your choice, for any tricks they can give you, ask them casually on vent/skype though, and watch some videos