I am not sure if I am looking for advice, or justification or what... its just something I need to get off my chest and I know some of you have probably experienced something similar in the past and can give some insight... I considered everyone spoken about below a friend... I accepted their faults and ignored/defended them every chance I got... up until last night.
I was recently the co-GM of a guild that had been on a server since the servers creation. For years I was an officer in this guild, and a raid leader... and when the GM decided to bail, I was the one that picked up the pieces and reformed the guild and pushed on several times more successful than the last GM. After a while, we experienced a drop in raid attendance by the more geared people and raiding slowed down. My co-GM began talks with another raiding guild about a merger, we had some test raids and things went smooth and very well... we worked together nicely and had a lot of fun.
A couple months after the merger, we started having drama issues. Members of the previously older guild started bringing things to myself and the GM, like one of the new officers from the merged guild, and their partner would cause problems at night. They would drink heavily almost every night and would be very different people, causing drama and such. Our first instinct was to kick them, however there had never been a true integration of the guilds, and the "merged guild" was still fully behind this officer (which happened to be the GM of the merged guild prior). So we knew if we punished these people, or even kicked them out, the guild would split and we would be back at square one... So we did our best to keep things civil and stop the problems without drastic measures.
Our guild was a "Casual Raiding Guild"... We had a handful of quality players, and then the rest were mediocre or just plain bad. (6.5k DPS out of an ArP capped Warrior on 25 Blood-Queen AFTER being bit, for example). We progressed very slowly due to this... Now I myself was an EverQuest player... 1998 to 2008... I raided some of the top tiers of content on that as a Raid Leader and strategist... I also played WoW at the same time since release, and raided Sunwell pre-3.0... My time invested in MMOs at the top tier of raiding caused me a lot of headaches in RL... including almost flunking out of college. I shed that life for a slower paced one, so the guilds slow progression wasn't a huge issue... but the drama always seemed to be a low lying problem...
Fast forward to recently... Drama... yet again stirred up... The same people at fault. This time were getting reports, including my co-GM witnessing these players... again drunk... explaining how they are going to leave the guild and take half of the guild with them, etc etc... (which is true, that guild-disconnect was still there, and was proven). We werent even fielding raids any longer, our 25man Raids could not kill Blood-queen, there werent enough quality players to bite, and if a bad player got bit... it was almost a sure Mind Control. Pact of the Darkfallen would kill several people an attempt. 10man Lich King was the same problems... Defile would kill us, always stemming from 1 or 2 people. These people also got in on EVERY run due to either guilt trips, being an officer, or loyalty by the others in the group. The last night we attempted to put a 25man together, 20 people logged on... We ended the night with a guild meeting, and I went to bed.
I wake up the next morning, log onto WoW before work to check an auction... the guild has half its members in it... And I come to find out that my co-GM left the guild. This caused the entire Faction of the "merged guild" to leave (and took everything of value out of the GBank mind you), despite the fact they hated the co-GM. The guilds ended up splitting into 2 factions... and I was left alone. I ended up joining a guild made up of alts of a friend of mine... who raid leads pugs for LK kills frequently. And last night I finally got my lich king kill... This is where the drama starts again. I start getting whispers, from the merged guild members... including 2 of the people that caused the most drama. They were guilt tripping me over the demise of the previous guild, and the fact that they were hurt that I got the Kingslayer title. These are people who left me high and dry without a single word, and are trying to make me feel bad about it. The Officer (ex GM of Merged guild) actually was spamming Tradechat about how "people are only out for themselves and will use you blah blah blah" after this as well...
I know this was extremely long... And completely unimportant to most of the readers on MMO-Champ... I guess my question is... Despite the fact that I busted my ass for that guild. Despite the fact I was the one that went to bat defending those people, they shit on me... and despite the fact that I was the one left alone to figure out what to do, I'm the bad guy? And the worst part is, its actually getting to me... I was recently diagnosed with Hypertension caused by stress, and ultimately being out of this situation is healthy for me. I know I did nothing wrong, yet I'm letting this shit get to me.