I used to play Need for Speed series games for a long time. I remember downloading the GRID demo, and not finishing for the first 10 races or so. Slowly I learned to break before corners and not wreck my car by the 2nd turn. And when I did learn and became good at it - when I was sliding through corners without getting a scratch, making something so hard look so easy - it was the most fun I've ever had in a racing game. I never touched a NFS game since.
I understand the appeal of arcade racers and shooters - but at the same time you have to realise the thrill of overcoming the challenges presented by these more realistic games.