Originally Posted by
Willelm
I think you meant well but you sounded a bit mean there. A lot of girls have self-image problems (yes, even the pretty ones) because of what the media shoves down our throats. Every day we are subject to looking at 5'8, 100lb stick figures who are dressed up in pretty clothes and made up to look, more or less, the idea of perfect. We can't open a magazine, watch a tv show, or even check out the Internet without having 'the perfect size 0 figure' shoved into our faces, and you have to remember this has been happening all throughout the life of your average 20-30 something year olds. It's even worse for the younger girls, so it's not a conscious thought - it's so ingrained that being a size 0-4 is glamorous that anything LESS than that is simply not acceptable if you want to view yourself in good light.
It's quite a booster to see the VS models before and afters, considering they don't look as great as their photos and they are so skinny they just look tired and worn out.
Don't get me wrong, though. There are girls out there who complain about body image to fish for compliments. But it's not the majority of girls and most girls are just psychologically damaged from the media's idea of perfection.
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Telling a TEENAGE girl she's beautiful in any light does wonders for self-esteem. If she (a teenage girl, or early 20-something), gets angry or exasperated that you say she's pretty, and tries to defend that she's fat, it's only because she really believes that and she has a desire to change it, and feels unworthy of being called 'pretty'. It's really not her fault - as a girl who never struggled with weight, was never obese, and isn't bad looking, I can speak from experience that no matter what kind of awesome bone structure you have, you will find flaws, and at some point during your life it will push you to tears that there are some things you simply can't change, because you feel completely out of control. But again, I stress, this is in relation to most teenage girls and those in their early 20s.
But for older women who know better and have the power to change whatever it is they don't like about themselves, they don't really have much excuse. There comes a time where you just gotta get over it.