without knowing more than i've gathered from your previous posts i can obviously only give very limited advice, but a few thoughts:Having never dealt with (to my knowledge) a transgender person, it's hard for me to tell if I'm going to offend him or not when I try to ask questions.
- just because he doesn't seem to (want to) talk about it doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong. i imagine in a situation like that talking is always very difficult and it needs time and careful nuturing of your relationship to do so freely, if it's possible at all. time spent together without talking isn't necessarily wasted.
- if you've had frequent talks about everyday's life and stuff before, try to not let those die completely, unless he seems annoyed by keeping that up now. life goes on and there's so much more that matters about a person than gender :]
when something seems to affect your entire life so strongly and negatively, everything that gives your head and heart a small break now and then from all the shit can be worth a lot.
- i don't think it's possible to never say anything potentially stupid/wrong/offensive unless you avoid the topic altogether. important is that he knows you are there for him, and that you are trying your best. even if he doesn't seem to be willing to talk much, you can just tell him that.
- lastly, there are quite a few very nice people on mmoc that have experience with transgender issues themselves. maybe just talking with one of them about their own experience (without need of deeply psychological professional advice^^) can help you better understand what you, and more importanlty your son, are dealing with.
in any case, best of luck to the two of you, i hope it'll all work out well eventually =)
you can't understand the magic of punsch rolls just by reading about them, geez!
go buy some at ikea
seriously though, Saya no Uta touched some philosophical issues that i've been thinking about a lot and that no other story i know managed (or even attempted) to show in the same light. the original I Am Legendary probably did, but i've never read that.
well, it should!I'm not sure if Colombia has IKEAs.
Last edited by Sy; 2012-12-02 at 03:50 PM.
which is a major reason for why i am so impressed by the story. i know of no other that bends, and potentially even reverses, the common view of right and wrong, mad and sane. of superiority and morality and all the set and unspoken laws connected to those, that we humans created as we saw fit in a world incontestably dominated by our species for many thousands of years.
i understand these philosophical things, or at least the way Saya no Uta approaches them, aren't graspable by -- let alone interesting to -- everyone. all the more reason for me to respect the people who decided to deal with them :]
Last edited by Sy; 2012-12-02 at 04:09 PM.
you're already spoiler'ing stuff a bit here for anyone who might want to take a look at it themselves in the future, so you might want to mark it as such.
and yes, i know i tend to be oversensitive about that^^
i'm talking about much more than a simple foodchain. her raw physical superiority is actually questionable, not to mention that the humans broke away from the traditional "the strong eat the weak" chain long ago anyway.
and Saya is the first and only one we know and only like 2y old. we have no possibility to tell how a culture, civilization or whatever of her species may look like, and how the views and actions of their individuals might differ (refering to your vegan argument here). in fact, seeing as how she originally is without any prejudices and is influenced in her whole beeing by the native species to an extend that exceeds even human's influence amongst each other, we can assume her species has a far, far greater variety of different individuals than we do.
what i'm talking about are for example the value of mind, of choice, of feelings and the "rights" we generally assume come with those.