My expenses went from almost non existent to more than I earn in a month, making me reliant on my wife's income as well. I spent ~ $3000 on my pc when I was single, now I'm lucky to get a new HDD even when I need one. My personal expendable income when I was single was maybe $300 a month with a part time job, paying for school, now with a full time job, getting OK pay, I have almost nothing available to spend each month. Women are money sinks. I love her, but sometimes I get stressed by how much we are spending each month.
P.S. I spent all that money on my PC while going to school, having a part time job, and paying for school. Parents made too much money so I couldn't get financial assistance from the government since I was considered a dependent.
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I believe a wise group of four once wrote a song about this very subject.
“Do not lose time on daily trivialities. Do not dwell on petty detail. For all of these things melt away and drift apart within the obscure traffic of time. Live well and live broadly. You are alive and living now. Now is the envy of all of the dead.” ~ Emily3, World of Tomorrow
Words to live by.
True and sad...one reason I refuse to do it.
I see Marriage as a business decision, one that makes sense if your raising a pack of kids. If you don't have kids it isn't really a great business choice betting your going to succeed and the other partner isn't going to take 1/2 (or more) of your crap.
So...bad business and a bad gamble.
No thanks.
“Do not lose time on daily trivialities. Do not dwell on petty detail. For all of these things melt away and drift apart within the obscure traffic of time. Live well and live broadly. You are alive and living now. Now is the envy of all of the dead.” ~ Emily3, World of Tomorrow
Words to live by.
I probably won't get married. I like being able to do whatever the fuck I want too much. If I ever want to do something and the other person doesn't agree, I want to be able to say "Get the fuck out of my house" without going through trouble.
I don't know, I'm in a decent position. I have an apartment, I make 10 times more than the average for my country (~468 euros/month while I make around 4.5k from doing random shit), I still get job offers every few weeks in IT (we have like 35000 spots that need people and even these start from 1.5k) and I have a Mechanical Engineer Bachelor's Degree.
My girlfriend finished Biochemistry and is doing her masters but she can't find a job. The last offer she had was 6 hours/day working with rather toxic stuff with poor ventilation... for 80e/month... and she had to work 1 week in another town ~600 km away.
They way court works here...you lose even shit you had before the marriage and kids "can't be separated from the mother except in extreme cases" and most of the time they end up with social services and not the father.
I'm sorry but it's not worth it...at all.
The only reason they'd take 1/2 or more of "your crap" would be if your spouse (male or female) either wasn't working or had proof of possessing something you claimed as yours before the marriage.
Otherwise, it's not "your crap" but "the marriage's crap" and yes, you will lose part of something that belonged to two people when they split.
Only Idiots believe in Religion.
The tax benefits are not as huge as people make them out to be, especially if both partners are working (and they should both be working). Children are the real tax boosts. In my opinion, there should be other legal documents to see someone in the hospital and a properly written and updated will pretty much puts your assets where you want it.
You're getting exactly what you deserve.
Not going to marry, because of the fear of losing MY stuff. Most woman marries the person for money (or wealth), one of my main reason prevent me from getting married.