Apologies if this is slightly old, I just came across it.
Just to be clear from what I understand of the story:
- He was "wasted" when he called her
- She was sober and in control
- She had a creepy crush on him and wanted to have sex with him but he was out of her league
- Upon arriving, she was immediately aware that he was barely verbal, couldn't focus his eyes, passing-out drunk
- He could not consent to sex
- She took advantage of the situation to have sex with him
- He passed out repeatedly, fell out of the bed, crawled back in, she continued to have sex with him
- She eventually gave up and left
http://www.vulture.com/2014/05/read-...la-speech.html
"It was 8 a.m., my dorm room phone rang. "Amy, wassup? It's Matt. Come over." Holy shit! This is it, I thought. He woke up thinking about me! He realized we're meant to start a life together! Let's just stop all this pretending that we weren't free just to love one another!"
"Finally, the door opens. It's Matt, but not really. He's there, but not really. His face is kind of distorted, and his eyes seem like he can't focus on me. He's actually trying to see me from the side, like a shark.
"Hey!" he yells, too loud, and gives me a hug, too hard. He's fucking wasted.
I'm not the first person he thought of that morning. I'm the last person he called that night. I wonder, how many girls didn't answer before he got to fat freshman me? Am I in his phone as Schumer? Probably.
But I was here, and I wanted to be held and touched and felt desired, despite everything. I wanted to be with him."
"He started to go down on me. That's ambitious, I think. Is it still considered getting head if the guy falls asleep every three seconds and moves his tongue like an elderly person eating their last oatmeal?"
Compare to:
https://reason.com/blog/2015/06/11/a...ed-for-rape-bu
"Amherst College expelled a male student who was accused of sexually assaulting a female student while he was blacked out. Again, while he was blacked out. The woman he allegedly assaulted was fully lucid.
How did that happen? It didn’t. The evidence overwhelmingly suggests that the male student did nothing wrong. If anyone committed sexual assault during their encounter, it was in fact the female student."
This is one of the few cases where we have an actually good idea of what happened the night in question. Doe accompanied the accuser (who was Doe's girlfriend's roommate) to her dorm room. The accuser performed oral sex on a blacked out Doe (Johnson notes that even the Amherst hearing found Doe's account of being blacked out "credible"). Doe leaves. The accuser then texted two people: First, a male student she had a crush on — whom she invited over after a heavily flirtatious exchange earlier in the evening. Then, a female friend.
The accuser said during her hearing that she only texted one friend to help her handle the assault as she felt "very alone and confused." But her texts with her female friend give no indication of an assault. Rather, the accuser texted her friend "Ohmygod I jus did something so fuckig stupid" [sic throughout]. She then proceeded to fret that she had done something wrong and her roommate would never talk to her again, because "it's pretty obvi I wasn't an innocent bystander."