It's even worse in my experience. The women treat it like the man is auditioning for marriage, but at least in my experience they don't seem to try very hard to prove they're worth marrying. My experience is limited of course, so it could just have been the Asian women I was involved with. The guy has to show his financial and personal acumen, and the girl doesn't really have to do much to prove she's worth all the money and effort of marriage.
But I know I had culture clashes with the girls I dated. Maybe their efforts just didn't come up to my standards, so I didn't notice them.