There you go again, ignoring context.
"This guy could be studying to become (insert extremely impressive job) while working his ass off in his sparetime to support various siblings because his parents had died in a car accident and your family/friends would write him off simply because he couldnt afford to pay for you"
I don't give a shit what someone could become. They could be the next fucking Picasso in 30 years, I don't care.
And if the job loss is due to injury? A couple months ago we had a Conductor fall off a locomotive that ended up running her foot over obviously resulting in an amputation of the rest of the foot. Just to see where you're at with these things -- are you going to up and leave someone who can no longer return to their job?
I think its funny this gets repeated so often when we have men who believe it's their responsibility to pay for everything. You guys really set your own standard and get angry when things don't result in your own desired outcome. If you come across someone who demands you pay for everything thats on you to say no. Why is that so difficult?
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That's not really true though. At least not in my country (Norway). I've been on plenty of dates, and there's always an expectation that the bill should be shared. Obviously if I dated a student I'd offer to pay, but if not it's always been 50/50.
I think many girls here would be offended if the guy just paid the check - it's kind of insinuating that you have money and she does not.
This problem is all about guys throughout the world thinking it's manly and the right thing to do, more so than girls expecting free food.
Poland is for the most part mentally stuck somewhere in 18th century so it doesn't particularly strike me as a country open to change as would be indicative of lower context cultures. As to what is the point of comparison here you'd have to ask Copeland. Hell, even some western European countries are heavily focused on family and other groups, like Italy (particularly the south).
Except that tradition is primitive in nature and stems from the times when women just gained status barely above that of cattle, didn't earn nearly as much as men and as such actually had to be provided for. Given that it stopped being reality even in those Asian countries, this tradition is most certainly something you outgrow. Just like the tradition of building huts out of mud (in case of Taiwan, mixed with bamboo IIRC), even though they were a part of culture at some point. There are better models out there that are more appropriate for the current needs (or lack of thereof) and circumstances of a society. And so mud/bamboo huts gave way to wood, concrete even in Taiwan. Hell, it's not like it was really a model of courtship of Asian origin to begin with, it's just western norms that have been copied and replaced local norms that often involved arranged marriages of some sort (due to the significant role of a family in high context cultures like these).
Yeah, it's kinda cheap if the expectation is that you will to pay.
Unless i invite someone and already mention im paying, im not paying. Specially not random dates, its 2017 anybody not paying for themselves should just tell me they cant pay before hand for me to consider. Freeloaders that expect shit can take a hike what ever the gender.
Here is my issue, and a small pet peeve.
Some women want all the benefits of feminism. Equal pay, equal rights, equal work, equal chores, equal everything.
Then expect a man to pay for everything when dating.
Such a shitty double standard
Personally I can't for the life of me understand why anyone would stay with someone who gets so injured or sick they can't work. They're likely full-body paralyzed or brain damaged at that point or something like it. I have no intention to bind myself down to be a caretaker for them for the rest of their lives. Maybe if it happened when I was like late 60s but not now when I'm in my 20s.
Is it cheap to not want to pay for the other person's drink and food? Well... is it cheap to expect the other person to pay for the both of you? How can it be cheap to expect everybody to pay for their own stuff? I'm already paying for mine, it's not like I want a free meal, so you pay for yours. If I'm buying, I'm buying. You'll see. But then it's a courtesy from me, not something that is to be expected. Not your provider.