Dating: How often do you text your date?

[Freighter]

She seems like a clingy psycho. So It's for the best.

I wasn't aware you can make out who is a psycho or clingy from how often they text someone they're dating.

[Shakadam]

I wasn't aware you can make out who is a psycho or clingy from how often they text someone they're dating.

Pretty easily, texting someone 50 times a day to ask where they are and what they're doing is clingy as fuck.

[MisterBigglez]

If she has to ask every other hour where you are or what you're doing, theres a trust issue. How long have you been dating?

[Elim Garak]

I wasn't aware you can make out who is a psycho or clingy from how often they text someone they're dating.

You judge people by what they do. That's the only way. You don't waste several years in relationship with them to figure it all out.

[Freighter]

You judge people by what they do. That's the only way. You don't waste several years in relationship with them to figure it all out.

If she sent like 200-300 texts I'd agree that she's probably clingy or psycho but 40-50? No, that seems like a perfectly normal amount.

[Elim Garak]

If she sent like 200-300 texts I'd agree that she's probably clingy or psycho but 40-50? No, that seems like a perfectly normal amount.

For someone who admitted to send that much texts a day it is no surprise your definition of too much is 5-6 times greater. For normal people 50 texts a day from a single person - is TOO MUCH.

[Independent voter]

I don't text, I'm texted.

I get up to 20 a day, a lot more when we first started dating.

[shadowmouse]

Now, this girl I've been seeing have been sending me about 40-50 texts per day, which to me seems quite absurd.

FFS, Nitro, would you please start to specify that these situations are taking place in Taiwan, often with Asian women who are following a different playbook. Every time you do this, you get @Freighter or @Katie N answering on the basis of one set of assumptions (the ones most applicable to where you are and who you tend to date) and get them flamed because the NA/EU guys are used to a different set of conditions.

Now that that is out of my system:

That's not bombarding, it's just normal, to show that I care about them.

That's pretty common here too. I've known Pink around seven years, we're getting married, we live together -- we probably run 15-20 messages a day on WeChat. Many of those are just routine things like her telling me to remember to dress warmly, me telling her I'm on the subway and heading to work, her sending me a few seconds of video from the shop.

[cuafpr]

its a normal amount for me long as the context isn't always like where are you? why are you not repsonding? etc.. if its normal banter and hey what's up then cool no big deal.

real trick is who always text's first and if that person stops do you hear from them >.>

[Mikah]

If she sent like 200-300 texts I'd agree that she's probably clingy or psycho but 40-50? No, that seems like a perfectly normal amount.

How can you send 50 texts a day?

I get up in the morning, have breakfast, shower and drive to work. At best I could send a couple of texts then, but beyond that, texting until 6pm would be very restricted.

And then I get home, make supper, do the dishes, walk the dog, so by the time I would be able to actively exchange text messages, it's already getting late. 50 texts in a decent conversation is a good 2 hours full time on the phone.. I may as well drive to see the person I am texting if I really care about her. And it would be very involving. I could do this once in a while, but there is no way I would spend 2 hours on my phone texting someone every day.

Maybe I'm too old for this, or are your conversations just spamming 'lols' and emojis?

Mind you, if someone is asking me what I am doing or where I am using txts everyday, that would be a quick end to the relation.

[Freighter]

For someone who admitted to send that much texts a day it is no surprise your definition of too much is 5-6 times greater. For normal people 50 texts a day from a single person - is TOO MUCH.

How can you send 50 texts a day?

Saying good morning, asking about their morning, if they've eaten yet and reminding them about various things. Checking in on them around lunch, ask what they've had for lunch. If they're done for the day at work yet. If they've gotten home yet when done at work. Asking about their day when they've gotten home. Saying good night as well. It all adds up over the day, include talking about other things and 50 is a pretty normal amount.

This includes responding to them texting me too.

[shadowmouse]

Saying good morning, asking about their morning, if they've eaten yet and reminding them about various things. Checking in on them around lunch, ask what they've had for lunch. If they're done for the day at work yet. If they've gotten home yet when done at work. Asking about their day when they've gotten home. Saying good night as well. It all adds up over the day, include talking about other things and 50 is a pretty normal amount.

Yep, sounds just like Pink.

[Super Kami Dende]

Saying good morning, asking about their morning, if they've eaten yet and reminding them about various things. Checking in on them around lunch, ask what they've had for lunch. If they're done for the day at work yet. If they've gotten home yet when done at work. Asking about their day when they've gotten home. Saying good night as well. It all adds up over the day, include talking about other things and 50 is a pretty normal amount.

This includes responding to them texting me too.

If every single one of those was "Where are you right now" You'd be clingy.

[belfpala]

How often do you text your date? How often do you think you should text? I'm usually just throwing out a good morning, asking how they are, what they're up to and if they got something planned for the day and if not, if we should plan something together.

Now, this girl I've been seeing have been sending me about 40-50 texts per day, which to me seems quite absurd. Like every other hour she asks where I am, even if I'm working.

I text, relentlessly, until it's too much. That's my goal, because then she breaks up with me.

At least, that's how I date. How about you?

[Freighter]

That's pretty common here too. I've known Pink around seven years, we're getting married, we live together -- we probably run 15-20 messages a day on WeChat. Many of those are just routine things like her telling me to remember to dress warmly, me telling her I'm on the subway and heading to work, her sending me a few seconds of video from the shop.

Yeah, if someone texting to inquire about their partners well-being and what they're doing or where they are is considered too much then they're probably better off just dating someone from australia/europe/america(@Nitro Fun HINT HINT) to be honest. Especially if ignoring the texts, which just causes worry that there's something wrong, like lack of interest in them, them being mad at them or that they're hiding something from them which doesn't really lend itself to a frictionless relationship.

[Nitro Fun]

FFS, Nitro, would you please start to specify that these situations are taking place in Taiwan, often with Asian women who are following a different playbook. Every time you do this, you get @Freighter or @Katie N answering on the basis of one set of assumptions (the ones most applicable to where you are and who you tend to date) and get them flamed because the NA/EU guys are used to a different set of conditions.

I assumed that would be obvious from my location.

That's pretty common here too. I've known Pink around seven years, we're getting married, we live together -- we probably run 15-20 messages a day on WeChat. Many of those are just routine things like her telling me to remember to dress warmly, me telling her I'm on the subway and heading to work, her sending me a few seconds of video from the shop.

Why can't you just talk face to face about these things if you live together before you leave for work or when you get home from work or call instead of texting? A lot of the things she texts about seems so mundane and not really worth responding to but then she texts me again shortly after if I don't respond, why can't you just say it face to face when you meet instead of spending time on texting about it?

[Twix]

50 texts per day? asking where you are? sounds like a controlling psycho.. run before its too late

[Nitro Fun]

Yeah, if someone texting to inquire about their partners well-being and what they're doing or where they are is considered too much then they're probably better off just dating someone from australia/europe/america(@Nitro Fun HINT HINT) to be honest. Especially if ignoring the texts, which just causes worry that there's something wrong, like lack of interest in them, them being mad at them or that they're hiding something from them which doesn't really lend itself to a frictionless relationship.

That would limit my dating pool a lot. Not that many women from those places here and even then the white or black women tend to lack interest in asian guys.

[Swalload]

Just tell her that for every Txt past 10 a day you respond to, she needs to give you a BlowJob.

At worst She leaves you.
Midrange she only texts you 10 times a day.
At best she agrees and still texts you a ton.

This man knows what's up.

[Freighter]

That would limit my dating pool a lot. Not that many women from those places here and even then the white or black women tend to lack interest in asian guys.

You're thai unless I remember wrong? Your dating pool is already limited, thai men aren't exactly sought after as the local women certainly can do better in pretty much all cases.