Getting married (japanese and american theme) info needed?

[c2dholla619]

So im a black male marring a japanese women. I convinced her to do a mix theme, she wanted a normal american style i wanted to wear the japanese cloths b/c im a weeb lolz. Anyway the bride and groom will wear traditional japanese atire with a american ceremony with japanese pre wedding event(no idea what that is). So i have no idea what tradition japanese wedding cloths are other then what they look like i been googling things but the all knowing online community knows everything so no better place to ask for some info.

[Doctor Amadeus]

Lol,this seems very specific so I can’t even imagine Japanese traditions, but best wishes on you and your bride.

[Ezekeel]

Congrats, but why don't you ask her? Also, maybe she doesn't want it because she doesn't feel like she really belongs to that culture? That could be my reason not to do that kind of thing. Maybe you could find an organizator that know about this kind of stuff?

[RicardoZ]

Advice from a married man: Just do the wedding the way that she wants. It's all about her, let her have her day exactly the way she wants, no exceptions. You will be much, much happier that way, along with everybody else involved.

[Harry Botter]

Advice from a married man: Just do the wedding the way that she wants. It's all about her, let her have her day exactly the way she wants, no exceptions. You will be much, much happier that way, along with everybody else involved.

Quoting this man for speaking the truth.

We decided that my wife should handle the wedding since I have no real creative side at all. I am very pleased with how our Halloween themed wedding turned out.

[Kathandira]

So im a black male marring a japanese women. I convinced her to do a mix theme, she wanted a normal american style i wanted to wear the japanese cloths b/c im a weeb lolz. Anyway the bride and groom will wear traditional japanese atire with a american ceremony with japanese pre wedding event(no idea what that is). So i have no idea what tradition japanese wedding cloths are other then what they look like i been googling things but the all knowing online community knows everything so no better place to ask for some info.

Ask her Father. As long as their family is in good standing, he would likely be proud of you for coming to him for advice.

[Minikin]

Advice from a married man: Just do the wedding the way that she wants. It's all about her, let her have her day exactly the way she wants, no exceptions. You will be much, much happier that way, along with everybody else involved.

if i could, id upvote this.

if you want any variable to change, just two things, 1. car you come and leave in, 2. your attire.

[Kathandira]

Advice from a married man: Just do the wedding the way that she wants. It's all about her, let her have her day exactly the way she wants, no exceptions. You will be much, much happier that way, along with everybody else involved.

While stereo typically, you are right, I anecdotally have the opposite experience. We are both very creative, her more than I as she is a career artist, she is terrified of planning out wedding. I handle these things very well as I don't stress about it, but she doesn't even know where to begin. lol

If I left it up to my fiance, we'd just get papers signed and be done with it. But I'm the one who actually wants the ceremony.

[Pawstruck]

ITT: Matriarchy strikes again. "Let her have anything she wants, or you'll be miserable!"

[RicardoZ]

While stereo typically, you are right, I anecdotally have the opposite experience. We are both very creative, her more than I as she is a career artist, she is terrified of planning out wedding. I handle these things very well as I don't stress about it, but she doesn't even know where to begin. lol

If I left it up to my fiance, we'd just get papers signed and be done with it. But I'm the one who actually wants the ceremony.

It was kind of like that with my wife, but I just let her do everything because I knew she wanted it "just so", and should have it that way since wedding days are usually much more important to a woman than a man (not to assume your situation).

I personally didn't really care, so I just let her do whatever she wanted and went along with it, since I'm kind of more in the "just get papers signed and be done with it" camp.

But, back to the OP, if she wanted you in Japanese attire, she'd have said "Honey, why don't you wear Japanese attire?". If she didn't say that, then forget about it. Let this be the first of many millions of tiny sacrifices you make for the sake of "Shalom bayit" as they say, "domestic peace".

[God Save The King]

I'd probably just talk to her? You're entering a (hopefully) lifelong commitment. It should start with more open communication.

As others have mentioned, if she's passionate about the wedding and you're more indifferent, let her do it her way. If you're also passionate about the ceremony, then you'll need to talk and compromise.

I imagine if she is Japanese by heritage yet doesn't want a Japanese ceremony, then she likely feels more like an American, not Japanese. Perhaps this is important to her?

[Dwarfhamster]

Is she Japanese Japanese or something like American of Japanese descent? Because there's a huuuuuuuuge difference.

Advice from a married man: Just do the wedding the way that she wants. It's all about her, let her have her day exactly the way she wants, no exceptions. You will be much, much happier that way, along with everybody else involved.

Yeah what this guy said.

[Elegiac]

Advice from a married man: Just do the wedding the way that she wants. It's all about her, let her have her day exactly the way she wants, no exceptions. You will be much, much happier that way, along with everybody else involved.

What hetero nonsense is this.

If you can't compromise on something as basic as a wedding how do you expect to be able to compromise on anything else?

[LiiLoSNK]

As much as I don't think you should use this theme, you came to the exact right place to find out how to at least do it right.

[Daedius]

Go traditional (with her side) !

[Piglord]

My ex wife and I had a traditional Japanese wedding. The clothing for the guy isn't bad. Kimono top, hakama pants, hoari jacket, obi belt, funky socks that I can't think of the name of and Japanese flip flops. Pretty comfortable, although I can't stand things between my toes. The famale side of it would suck. Might be why she would rather have a western wedding. They have many many layers that are all very tight, after it's all on it weighs a ton. Plus, they wear a big ass wig and hat. The ceremony itself I thought was pretty nice. Drink sake, read some stuff, and get blessed.

[ls-]

Is she Japanese Japanese or something like American of Japanese descent? Because there's a huuuuuuuuge difference.

So much this >_>

If it's the latter, Japanese style wedding may be just as alien to her as it's to you.

[RicardoZ]

What hetero nonsense is this.

If you can't compromise on something as basic as a wedding how do you expect to be able to compromise on anything else?

The trick is knowing when to push for compromise. Sometimes you just have to let her have her way...sometimes she should just let you have yours, and she will. Choose your battles, wisely. The wedding is her day, let her have it. Your job on that day is smile and make her look good.

[Dwarfhamster]

The trick is knowing when to push for compromise. Sometimes you just have to let her have her way...sometimes she should just let you have yours, and she will. Choose your battles, wisely. The wedding is her day, let her have it. Your job on that day is smile and make her look good.

Wise words for a happy life together.

[Mormolyce]

Advice from a married man: Just do the wedding the way that she wants. It's all about her, let her have her day exactly the way she wants, no exceptions. You will be much, much happier that way, along with everybody else involved.

I agree with this, also this is a good habit to get into if you're planning on a long term marriage. Kek.