Totally agree with you. My aunt and grandmother believe in guilt tripping children, and really adults too, into doing what they think people are supposed to do. My uncle isn't a bad guy, he's just not as strict because my aunt and grandma would swoop in and try to control the situation. For the longest time I knew their way of parenting would fail in one form or another. Before my mom married my step-dad they did the same thing with me and my brother. We were spoiled, hyperactive little shits that didn't listen at all. Thankfully my cousin turned out to be an alright guy so it isn't a total failure.