dating preferences are bad?

[Mistame]

that's your opinion and it means fuck all to me pal.

It's literally not "racist" to not be attracted to a specific race. This is fact.

- If you don't want to date a fat girl, you might be missing out on something...especially since the vast majority of guys say that, but aren't exactly in prime condition themselves (back to unrealistic expectations). And, if you are looking for something long term, weight really should be lower on your priority list.

You're pushing two false sentiments here. The first is that you seem to be under the impression that physical attraction isn't necessary. It is in most cases. If someone isn't physically attracted to someone, there's no rational reason to be with them. Yeah, other things are important, too, but the foundation of intimacy is attraction. The second is that one's preferences should match their own appearance/physique. This is simply not true. I know plenty of athletic men/women who are attracted to chubby/non-athletic people. How one looks has no relevance whatsoever to their preferences.

- If you don't want to date someone because they don't have a lot of money, you have to ask yourself why. Are you expecting someone else to do all the work while you have a fun life? If so, then you are indeed a gold digger. Are you simply looking for someone that can be part of a sustained relationship? If so, then there isn't anything really wrong with that.

I can't speak for anyone else, but if someone can't support themselves, I'm not interested.

- If you don't want to date someone because of their height...well, then you are shallow. Sorry to break that news to you; there just isn't any realistic justification for that stance.

Again, "shallow" is just a word to compensate for being rejected. There is no moral attachment to attraction preferences. There is no invalid reason to not date someone. This is another false premise, as it implies that attraction has little to no significance, which is patently false.

- If you don't want to date someone because of their race...well, then you are racist. Sorry to break that news to you.

Sorry to break it to you, but it's literally not.

[Player Twelve]

- If you don't want to date a fat girl, you might be missing out on something...especially since the vast majority of guys say that, but aren't exactly in prime condition themselves (back to unrealistic expectations).

How would someone miss out by not dating someone they're not attracted to?

And, if you are looking for something long term, weight really should be lower on your priority list.

It should be way up there because being fat is a very easy way to spot flaws in someones character. Becoming fat outside of freak cases comes down to laziness, apathy or lack of knowledge how to take care of yourself. You don't become fat over a night, nor over a week or a month. It takes longer than that.

- If you don't want to date someone because of their race...well, then you are racist. Sorry to break that news to you.

That's not what racist means. What is racist is to deem people superior/inferior based on race, what you're attracted to is not about deeming people to be superior/inferior based on race.

[Freighter]

Most attractive asians and blacks have white features or are mixed.

What does white features even mean? No, they're not mixed.

[Arrkon]

Well, there is quite a mix here.

Overall, dating preferences aren't necessarily bad; after all, you do want to be with someone you are compatible with. And what you've actually constructed is a strawman argument here anyways. I haven't seen anyone say you shouldn't have *any* dating preferences, just that you shouldn't be shallow.

In some cases, people have unrealistic expectations (I know a few people whose preferences will simply never be satisfied).

For your specific examples:
- If you don't want to date a fat girl, you might be missing out on something...especially since the vast majority of guys say that, but aren't exactly in prime condition themselves (back to unrealistic expectations). And, if you are looking for something long term, weight really should be lower on your priority list.
- If you don't want to date someone because they don't have a lot of money, you have to ask yourself why. Are you expecting someone else to do all the work while you have a fun life? If so, then you are indeed a gold digger. Are you simply looking for someone that can be part of a sustained relationship? If so, then there isn't anything really wrong with that.
- If you don't want to date someone because of their height...well, then you are shallow. Sorry to break that news to you; there just isn't any realistic justification for that stance.
- If you don't want to date someone because of their race...well, then you are racist. Sorry to break that news to you.

Only a Sith deals in absolutes.

[Player Twelve]

I can't speak for anyone else, but if someone can't support themselves, I'm not interested.

How judgemental of you to expect people to be able to take care of themselves.

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What does white features even mean? No, they're not mixed.

Eyelid surgery etc. to look more white maybe?

[Mistame]

How judgemental of you to expect people to be able to take care of themselves.

What's worse is that I have to be attracted to them, too! Shame on me for not dating poor, overweight and unattractive women!

[Megitsune]

White women the most attractive, this is a fact. Most attractive asians and blacks have white features or are mixed.

False seeing as how attractiveness is subjective.

[Dangg]

False seeing as how attractiveness is subjective.

LMAO. Attractiveness is not subjective. There are certain traits which are universally unattractive/undesirable and signal bad genes.

[Player Twelve]

LMAO. Attractiveness is not subjective. There are certain traits which are universally unattractive and undesirable.

It differs from person to person what they think is attractive. That's as subjective as it gets.

[Mistame]

False seeing as how attractiveness is subjective.

Also false from a statistic perspective:

https://qzprod.files.wordpress.com/2...ces2.png?w=800

[ghotihook]

LMAO. Attractiveness is not subjective. There are certain traits which are universally unattractive/undesirable and signal bad genes.

It's actually both. There are certain traits that are pretty universally agreed up like symmetry, eye distance, etc...but there are others that are not skin color, eye color, dimples, and many many more.

[Sky High]

I'm not upset in the slightest, it's just funny how people can go to such lengths to appear to be "good".

please, there are far easier ways to cast a larger net than that. and dat reading comprehension, work on it, for fuck sake.

[Player Twelve]

Also false from a statistic perspective:

https://qzprod.files.wordpress.com/2...ces2.png?w=800

What is this data pulled from?

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please, there are far easier ways to cast a larger net than that. and dat reading comprehension, work on it, for fuck sake.

#nopreferences #Imgood #standagainstracism #virtuesignalling

[Baelic]

Dating preferences aren't inherently bad, but are generally used as a stick to beat people that aren't "approved of" as a means to shame them. Part of the problem is that they're usually visual preferences as opposed to internal (personality) preferences.

"If you were skinnier then I'd totally date you"

"If you were more muscular, sure I'd date you"

[melodramocracy]

why do people say dating preferences are bad?

No one rational says this.

[Sky High]

#nopreferences #Imgood #standagainstracism #virtuesignalling

oh gee, thanks, I totally didn't pick up on your insipid rambling in the last post. #sarcasm

[Dangg]

It differs from person to person what they think is attractive. That's as subjective as it gets.

No it's not. Certain traits are not present in any person that is percieved as attractive.

Nobody thinks bad skin or dental malocclusion is attractive.

It's actually both. There are certain traits that are pretty universally agreed up like symmetry, eye distance, etc...but there are others that are not skin color, eye color, dimples, and many many more.

Exactly hair color, eye color or style might be up to preferences.

However facial features among features among attractive people are quite similar regardless of hair color, eye color...

[Player Twelve]

No it's not. Certain traits are not present in any person that is percieved as attractive.

Certain traits not being attractive does not mean attraction is not subjective.

[lummiuster]

why do people say dating preferences are bad? if someone say they dont want to date a fat girl then people attack them saying they should stop to be so shallow, if they dont want to date someone because they dont have a lot of money they are called a gold digger, if they dont want to date someone because of height they are called shallow, if they dont want to date white/black/asian people they call them racist.

why? cant people have dating preferences without others attacking them???

The worst are women. Men that are 7/10 usually expect to be with a girl that is 7/10.
But women that are 5/10 they take no less than men that are 8/10.
It sucks that it is acceptable for women to have high lots of preferences but it is bad seen when men do.

Fyi:
In general, men are much more forgiving (this is due to our nature). It is not as important for men that their partner is tall, muscular, a certain color... It is important for a man that her partner is healthy (thus should not be skinny nor too fat) because men's brain evaluate the capacity of a woman to feed and keep its babies alive.
Women however have a lot of discriminating preferences.

[Mistame]

What is this data pulled from?

I believe it's from a Facebook dating app "Are You Interested (AYI)". Charts from other dating sites (OKCupid, etc) show similar numbers. I just googled "racial preference chart" and switched to images.