I love people that equate "spanking" to "beating".
No one should "beat" a child. I don't have nor want children, but if I did I would spank them when they get out of line and they need discipline.
I love people that equate "spanking" to "beating".
No one should "beat" a child. I don't have nor want children, but if I did I would spank them when they get out of line and they need discipline.
Just because I don't agree with you doesn't mean I support the other side.
It's a method to teach discipline, but there are non-violent options for that so I'd rather look into those first.
Now you see it. Now you don't.
Some of the responses on here truly amaze me at how extreme they are. The ones that have occasionally spanked their children seem pretty centered and normal, while the ones against are calling for us to have our children taken away, be put in jail, running a child abuse campaign etc. I think you are the extreme ones, not us. In addition, if you are coming at this because you were, or know someone that was part of a child abuse situation, I am sorry for you I really am. However, there is a very large difference from what you may think of and what I was describing.
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I got smacked as a child. I was never beaten though. It did me the world of good.
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You never beat your child. However, at a young age, a very thin and limber twig off a willow tree, can send a message to a unruly child who does not listen to verbal reasoning and commands.
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"beating your children?"
"spanking" maybe?
Spanking is a tool in a parent's toolbox. When a kid is 2 years old they're not old enough to understand why they shouldn't do certain things but they do understand that they don't want a spanking. I think it should only be used to remedy extreme or dangerous behavior.
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I used to be ok with it when I was younger, and felt that because I was raised that way that it was how you just raised your kids. My son was born when I was 21, so I was waaaaaaaay too young to be a parent.
Now that I'm 42, I have a completely different take on it. If I could do it all over again (retaining what I know, of course), I would reserve spankings for only the worst of the worst things my kid did, if even then.
Spanking (unless the wife asks for it) just seems more like frustration of the parent manifesting itself negatively rather than being an actual lesson.
That said - my kid (who is 20 now) is a damn good person and my wife and I at least did something right in this life. I just would have been more patient if I could do it all over again.
/shrug
Some kids need physical discipline, that's just fine.
Beating is something else entirely, and not fine.
There's a huge difference between beating and spanking. A spanking is a last resort that should be used extremely rarely. Beating on the other-hand, should never be done.
The same as beating baby animals I guess.
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i am all for beating draenei they deserve it. what? you asked if we should beat kids.
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i will never forgive you for this blizzard.
This is one area where lots of EU countries have it right. Striking another person, but especially a child, in anything other than self-defense is the act of a contemptible P.o.S.
Ground a child, take away everything in their room but their clothes/bed/schoolwork and then confine them there for a time/ etc.
Even restrain them if they are about to hurt themselves or someone else. But if you intentionally cause a child pain, I sincerely hope you one day experience the fires of hell.
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Never close your hand into a fist, nor hit the face. It really depends on how bad my kid would screw up. Like it affecting their life kind of crap, not if they break something or have a tantrum as an example. Only if they don't listen at first of course.
Never do it when you are angry either or you'll make it a habit and it will just get worse from there.
And what if none of that works? What if they continue to act out? Just chalk it up to "oh well, shitty kid"? My issue with people who are vehemently against any kind of physical punishment think everything will be fine if you just talk to your kids. Sometimes that doesn't work. Sometimes kids are super stubborn, that's just their personality and there's nothing you can do about it. This leads to parents just giving up or giving in, which I think is a bad decision.