in dating how important is social status to u?

[Kathandira]

If money is a main fixture then you failed, what about the person behind it? You kind of sound like a gold digga!

I'd think there is more to it than "Do they have money". A Doctor could had just gone through a divorce, and the wife could have cleaned them out. Lost his car, his house, his savings, left with nothing but clothes and personal belongings. He might be broke right now, but still is a doctor, and will recover since he is still working and making money. When looking at a person as a potential partner, there is more to it than there here and now.

Asking a yes or no question when it comes to topics like this isn't served well with a yes or no response. There is so much that goes into selecting a partner that it isn't easily summed up in a quick answer.

[dunhildas]

Assume Alpha male, punch the lowly waiter in the face (Must be male) then Roar.



If she doesn't find you dominating then she seeks a beta, and should left with the weakest of our kind.

[Weeps]

There’s a girl I know from college. She lives near me. I wouldn’t touch her with a 10 foot pole. She is a phlebotomist. It’s her mental health. She is ducking weird.

My wife isn’t weird. I like that. I’m not talking about “haha you’re funny” kinda weird. No. This is creepy weird. Social status doesn’t mean shit to me. It’s attitude, personal hygiene, and intellect.

[plagueshard801]

Social status isn't that important, overall stability is. I do pretty well so I don't really care if someone is broke with no job, I definitely care if you are broke with no job because you spend your time smoking crack.

[Revi]

I don't care about status, but if you're my age and poor in my country it means you're either unwilling or unable to work, so for that reason I wouldn't date someone poor.

[Splenda]

I don't care about social status whatsoever, nor do I care about income level. I'm a woman and I've been interested in folks well below my "status" if we're going by income. What I have no time for is people, regardless of income, being massively irresponsible with their funds. I don't have time for that. I don't care if you make 500k a year or 25k a year- be smart with your money, please.

[Stormspark]

Don't give a damn about "social status".

[kamuimac]

I don't care about social status whatsoever, nor do I care about income level. I'm a woman and I've been interested in folks well below my "status" if we're going by income. What I have no time for is people, regardless of income, being massively irresponsible with their funds. I don't have time for that. I don't care if you make 500k a year or 25k a year- be smart with your money, please.

im really curious how do you define "being smart with money" - because its very easy to "be smart" when for example you save 20 % of your wages but its the amount which is 4x higher then somebody elses yearly salary . - what is the problem to save 20% of 500k ? in that case even if you buy a 200k $ car you still will be able to save that 100k without shread of problem .

woudl you consider someone blowing 200k on car and still saving 100k not smart ?

this is just typical mumbo jumbo spread around to make yourself look cool but when reality hits if given choice like every other woman you will go with the man who has better social status.

[Splenda]

im really curious how do you define "being smart with money" - because its very easy to "be smart" when for example you save 20 % of your wages but its the amount which is 4x higher then somebody elses yearly salary . - what is the problem to save 20% of 500k ? in that case even if you buy a 200k $ car you still will be able to save that 100k without shread of problem .

woudl you consider someone blowing 200k on car and still saving 100k not smart ?

this is just typical mumbo jumbo spread around to make yourself look cool but when reality hits if given choice like every other woman you will go with the man who has better social status.

Actually I'd go for the man that I have feelings for and treats me well. Social status/money doesn't matter. I consider being "smart" with money to mean you know how to save and don't spend large amounts on a whim, or don't know how to budget decently, or constantly blow huge amounts without consideration first- that sort of thing. If you know how to save and don't spend out the ass for no reason- then you're good to go.

[ldev]

It's not that important to me. I'd much rather date a poor person than someone who spells "you" as "u".

Yeah, same.

[kamuimac]

Actually I'd go for the man that I have feelings for and treats me well. Social status/money doesn't matter. I consider being "smart" with money to mean you know how to save and don't spend large amounts on a whim, or don't know how to budget decently, or constantly blow huge amounts without consideration first- that sort of thing. If you know how to save and don't spend out the ass for no reason- then you're good to go.

its cool but what do you consider a "smart " amount of saving - and im not trying to be a dick - im at this very place myself now - where i came from not poor but also nt very well earning family so in the begning i was like " gotta save i dont need this very expensive car because my current one is very good" but then comes a point when you realise that you paid of mortgage , and suddenly you have more and more money on your account - so why not spend some .

be honest - if you were able to save monthly like 60-80% of your salary then wouldnt you start spending more and more of it because you realise that there is no point in saving just for the sake of saving ? - because you have a stable job which isnt going away anyway soon and even if it would you will find another one without a problem because you are very good specialist. so why keep all this money instead start to live on better level and yes sometimes "burn " some of those money for simplsitic pleasure like buying yourself something nice.

the notion that "Social status/money doesn't matter." is most of time a lie that poor peopel tell to themselve just to live in fantasy that their life is ok and that they dont need more out of it. but given chance they would kill for oportunity to jump up in social ladder.

its also a lie that people who have rather much money also tell to themsleves because they forgotten how it is to be poor - or never knew in first place.

[Zafire]

I'm curious what "Low pay" is considered.

[Deleted]

It is if divide people into large groups such as social class. A member of the upper class has a higher social status than a worker.

Income =/= social class.

[Splenda]

its cool but what do you consider a "smart " amount of saving - and im not trying to be a dick - im at this very place myself now - where i came from not poor but also nt very well earning family so in the begning i was like " gotta save i dont need this very expensive car because my current one is very good" but then comes a point when you realise that you paid of mortgage , and suddenly you have more and more money on your account - so why not spend some .

be honest - if you were able to save monthly like 60-80% of your salary then wouldnt you start spending more and more of it because you realise that there is no point in saving just for the sake of saving ? - because you have a stable job which isnt going away anyway soon and even if it would you will find another one without a problem because you are very good specialist. so why keep all this money instead start to live on better level and yes sometimes "burn " some of those money for simplsitic pleasure like buying yourself something nice.

the notion that "Social status/money doesn't matter." is most of time a lie that poor peopel tell to themselve just to live in fantasy that their life is ok and that they dont need more out of it. but given chance they would kill for oportunity to jump up in social ladder.

its also a lie that people who have rather much money also tell to themsleves because they forgotten how it is to be poor - or never knew in first place.

I'm sure some people are lying to themselves, but I've been dirt poor before, I know what that's like. I'm not rich, I'm comfortable.

I have no problems at all with blowing some money on fun stuff, experiences, or useful upgrades like a new car/computer/blah blah. If you have the money to do so, and it's not going to cause any problems to blow it- then go for it!

MY issues are when someone does just that and then can't afford to pay the electricity bill the following week, you know what I mean? If you can pay all your bills, and have some savings in case something bad happens, I don't care what you spend your money on. Just don't really want to tie myself to someone who perpetually lives beyond their means and causes themselves endless stress because of it. Actual dollar amounts or %s are not relevant to what I'm trying to say.

EDIT: I hope I'm explaining myself decently, it's almost 2am here.

[Deathknightish]

I don't care about status, but if you're my age and poor in my country it means you're either unwilling or unable to work, so for that reason I wouldn't date someone poor.

If I remember correctly you're Swedish (or Nowrwegian?). What do you consider poor, in SEK/NOK?

[Zuben]

Permanent low social status is quite unappealing to me. I don't mind if people don't reach for the stars, but you ought to have some ambition.

[Phlegethon]

It's not that important to me. I'd much rather date a poor person than someone who spells "you" as "u".

I second this.

[Knolan]

There are about a gazillion features in a person that come before the thickness of his/her wallet to me.

Thickness is definitely important, though.

On topic: no, my girlfriend comes from a much poorer family than mine and that was never an issue.

If the person is caring, smart, has compatible values and you have fun together, rich or poor is not an issue at all.

[Revi]

If I remember correctly you're Swedish (or Nowrwegian?). What do you consider poor, in SEK/NOK?

Norwegian, yeah. I don't know what number I'd put it at, I guess it depends how you spend it.
I'd be wary if a potential date made less than 400.000nok (50.000usd) though, as you can make that from a fairly large number of unskilled jobs. You can go a lot below that without being poor, but I don't know why you'd be making a lot less if you're young and healthy.

[Deathknightish]

Norwegian, yeah. I don't know what number I'd put it at, I guess it depends how you spend it.
I'd be wary if a potential date made less than 400.000nok (50.000usd) though, as you can make that from a fairly large number of unskilled jobs. You can go a lot below that without being poor, but I don't know why you'd be making a lot less if you're young and healthy.

Mmkay, that's fair. I've had a look at your salaries, which seem to be like 20-30% higher, and 400k NOK translates to about 320-330k SEK here for the same job, which is about 27 000 SEK a month, which is definitely not rich, but far from poor as well.