I met my significant other a certain way and I expect just that. YES its time to move on
It doesn't make the slightest difference to me, my significant is fine any shape or size
I believe the point is to see those signs early on and discuss those things with your spouse before it gets to the point of being such a problem.
To the bolded, you don't love someone if you just sit back and watch them deteriorate. If you loved them, you would be on top of that to ensure they are the best they can be. And you should expect and welcome the same in return.
RIP Genn Greymane, Permabanned on 8.22.18
Your name will carry on through generations, and will never be forgotten.
Originally Posted by Blizzard Entertainment
Child birth wreaks havoc with a woman's body. Are you going to throw her out cause she had your kid?
You get old, life gives you lumps.
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"This will be a fight against overwhelming odds from which survival cannot be expected. We will do what damage we can."
-- Capt. Copeland
Anything is ground for divorce. It's entirely subjective and you can be as selfish as you desire regarding these matters.
It's your life do what you want.
YOu reap what you sow. You married that person. You should know how to talk to them, and how to reach their heart. If you went into the marriage knowing that you can't have a serious heart to heart with them without them getting aggressive, then that allow is a huge sign that it was doomed to fail from the start, well before the topic of weight gain was needed to be raised.
RIP Genn Greymane, Permabanned on 8.22.18
Your name will carry on through generations, and will never be forgotten.
That seems like they need counseling then. Along with my to jackofwind, if you knew that the person you married carried the trait of being unwilling to change or compromise or any key traits that are required for a long lasting partnership, it was doomed from the start, and likely shouldn't have even gotten as far as getting married.
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No marriage for you! There is no room for being selfish in a 50/50 partnership.
RIP Genn Greymane, Permabanned on 8.22.18
Your name will carry on through generations, and will never be forgotten.
That's pretty naive. People change and develop issues, there are outside factors, and sometimes they will just straight up refuse help. There is always a breaking point.
You're acting like when you get married to someone you get a print-out of all their hidden traits. Some things don't surface, and sometimes they don't even exist until they suddenly crop up.
Originally Posted by Blizzard Entertainment
You seem to really be deliberately missing the point. It's not just "lol ur fat, I'm leaving". It's that getting fat is takes time, it's years of bad habits and bad behavior. Of course I'd say something regularly along the way. If after years of my wife no longer having much regard for her fitness, her health, or her appearance, it would be entirely normal to say, "yeah, I'm leaving now".
Originally Posted by Blizzard Entertainment
Of course, this is all pretty hypothetical. The actual woman I'm married to isn't suddenly going to just decide that she doesn't like cycling after all and start eating way more for no apparent reason. Yeah, I wouldn't still love someone if they stopped being the person I love.
How so? I feel i'm being far more objective about the idea of take'm or leave'm than the majority of posters here. Many here seem the type to head for the divorce attorney after watching their spouse get to rock bottom before taking the time to try and raise them up before the got there.
RIP Genn Greymane, Permabanned on 8.22.18
Your name will carry on through generations, and will never be forgotten.
I think "In Sickness and In Health" includes weight gain.
Originally Posted by Blizzard Entertainment
Apparently "till death do us part" is now "till fat do us part". Wait until they found out their partner will eventually age, get wrinkly, saggy, bald and/or white-haired, and there's nothing they can do about it.
12 years in the same relationship. We have taken each others hand and helped each other rise up and become better and better people each year. There are the lessons I learned from watching and learning from my parents who divorced and remarried. 1 pair destroyed each other, the other pair supported each other. I have both first and second hand experience which lead me to my beliefs about marriage and partnerships.
The bolded is what i'm talking about. Yes things change, and if they are changing for the worse, at least try help each other. If you see your spouse heading down a dark path, you should be the one to help pull them out of it.
I'm not going to say that if absolutely nothing works that you shouldn't consider divorce, but before I started replying to this thread, there were many who weren't even mentioning the in between moment of going from everything being fine, to hitting rock bottom.
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RIP Genn Greymane, Permabanned on 8.22.18
Your name will carry on through generations, and will never be forgotten.