Yes. I gave a detailed response to his concrete question (my first post) and then posted a comment suggesting a different activity that they might enjoy more.
And both "gamer boy/girls" can lead to problems in a relationship. Like I mentioned a few comments above, the subculture of gaming is usually a lifestyle. Most of the time it becomes unhealthy and eats up other areas of your life.
She is fine with me playing however much I want so it's no big deal. I just want her to play with me some is all.
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We do plenty... this is just another thing. Not talking about 5 hours a day. I am a 1-2 hour a day player.
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Me and my wife are extremely happily married... and she will not become a "gamer girl" whatever that means (and implies that it's even bad)? I simply want to enjoy a few hours a week with my wife playing WoW during this time before things go crazy. Nothing more, nothing less.
I do appreciate the advice here. VERY good tips and have duly noted the "let her experience it on her own" theme. It is something that had I not posted here about it and received that advice from you fine people I may have screwed up.
Ask yourself. Why do you play wow? I could never get my wife into wow. Because the reason I played it did not speak to HER interests. However, After 10 years, I did manage to get my wife starting on mmos. Swtor to be exact. She wanted to play something easy enough to not suck, solo enough to not have to rely on others, and something that would have a story to interest her.
Main takeaway. Treat it like fishing. Without the bait, you wont get anywhere. My wife likes stories. Hates to read. Ask yourself what your wife likes. Don't do this for you, do this for her if you belive it is truly something she would enjoy based on HER interests
If you get your wife into WoW, something you may need to consider is if you'll need to have another fun way to occupy yourself if you ever want some "you" time. It could be pretty exhausting having to spend *all* of your time with your SO. But if that's really what you want, more power to ya.
If she's not a gamer at all, I kinda doubt you will succeed, no matter what you try, however if you're going to try anyway, I second what the guy here said
well, with exception of classic, she will get frustrated quickly and just drop it. BfA is much easier to get into for new players, mechanically at least, though I suppose lore might be a problem here, with how jumbled it is...
If the future is female...get ready for apocalypse.
It's not quite as dramatic as what I think some here are thinking. I don't know how to explain it... Simply want to play with her a bit. If she likes it... AWESOME! If not it is also fine as I can continue my WoW journey on my own as I have for 15 years.
She isn't going to make it to 120 I already know that. She isn't going to raid. This is just a pass-the-time type of thing and I think with leveling in retail being so casual/accessible it can be that.
Swoon her over with the Vulpera. Just subtly tell her she needs to do all the requirements first...
I apologize for going slightly off-topic, but I felt the need to comment on this. As a 'gamer girl' - a women who plays games, I don't think this is an accurate portrayal of most women who play games. I would never neglect real-life commitments for a video game, or neglect my boyfriend. It sounds like these two people are prioritizing their hobby over RL, and I think both men and women do this unfortunately.
As far as getting your wife to play, if she really doesn't want to, please respect it and find a hobby you both enjoy together. If she is showing interest, just gently encourage her and tell her how much fun you two could have together! Make her excited about it - tell her about all the interesting quests, transmog, cute pets, cool mounts etc. Whatever appeals to her interests the most.
maybe asking if she's actually into mmorpgs?
#boycottchina
So many ridiculous responses in this thread, offering up unneeded 'relationship advice' to the OP - it's a bit weird and quite cringey to be honest! They're a married couple; he doesn't need to be told how to date her, or what they should be doing in their spare time instead of enjoying a video game or any other form of media together. I'm sure they get up to plenty of other things.
On topic, the reason I initially suggested classic WoW as opposed to retail is because there's so many smaller goals and 'achievements' for someone casual, or a beginner, to work towards. Finally getting the gold together for your first mount feels amazing as does gathering the materials to craft yourself a piece of armour that actually makes you feel stronger. It's a lot slower, but that's good because there's no real rush to endgame. Also, OP mentioned that his wife is big into fantasy and lore, and the world building of classic actually makes it feel like you're on an adventure. Traversing an entire continent without loading screens feels like a living, breathing world, whereas so many shortcuts and streamlined, fast leveling in retail makes it feel more like a game instead. Not to mention the confusing structure of retail with it's narrative out of wack.
Just my opinion. I feel classic offers a slower, more engrossing, fantasy-based adventure as opposed to retail's quick, gamified systems of rushing through dungeons or esport pvp.
Just show her what she can do in wow, retail, definitely not classic. Non gamer would be tired AF just from running in classic. Show her all possible activities and see if she is into something.
30m-1h daily is enough to have some fun without burning yourself out.
And don't force anything, let her play the way she wants. Or not play at all if she doesn't want.
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Lol. You know why in "couples" it's usually the girl that's a worse player? Because no gamer girl would be impressed by a noob. I guess it's the usual catch 22: if you're worse player than me you suck, if you're better player than me, fuck you, you nerd?
On topic though, I don't think "playing together" is always the best idea, even if you are playing the same games the differences of playstyles and preferences can lead to unnecessary clash. OP can try to encourage wife to try WOW but if she's interested, just let her try stuff on her own, don't "babysit" her.
Maybe it's my personal skewed experience but I often find it more fun to play the same games as my husband separately and then discuss about them rather than play grouped together. We played WOW, Diablo3, LOL, SWTOR, Guild Wars2, Path of Exile and many other games, we would sit in the same room but often play these games at different times, for different time spans, with different attitudes, and we wouldn't always go grouped and do everything together like some lovebirds. We did raid together in wow, but probably spent more time doing own stuff rather than together. There were even times we raided in different guilds due to recruitment restrictions and general guild's aversion to "package deals". You don't have to do everything together.
Find yourself at a correct time in a correct place and don't screw it up by being a thirsty creep. Basically 50% luck 50% being a decent human being.
As long as the hobby isn't harmful, it's an issue if people "berate" each other for their likes and dislikes. If a girl spends time watching soap operas, painting nails and browsing facebook on her phone that's fine, but when a guy plays video games that's stupid and childish? In a healthy relationship even if people don't share each other hobbies or even dislike what that hobby is, they respect the other person's right to have a hobby as long as it doesn't lead to neglect of real life, financial ruin, health problems etc.
If a girl doesn't share your hobby, it's fine, but if a girl hates you for having a hobby that doesn't paint into her picture of "perfect boyfriend" then yeah... run away asap.