I also cant stand that people act like this is some sort of horrible thing everyone would find hellish. I'd say most people would consider finding a anima devourer and ending their own afterlife if they had to deal with 1 specific family member for eternity. and MANY of us would consider spending eternity with ANY of our family eternal punishment.
and thats not even getting into the idea that like...in real life you tend to move on if a family member dies within a few years. Obviously there are plenty that mourn forever, and even those that 'move on' are still greatly affected by their loved one. 20 years after your wife dies you might be remarried with a new kid. but you expect me to believe mortals wouldnt have moved on in a few thousand years, a few hundred? I've been in bastion for 280 years, why would i care about some man and some woman i knew 3 centuries ago I stoppped talking to when i was a 20 just because i share DNA with them?
but yea it always irked me that people made a big deal about the afterlife when every afterlife you can think of is hell for someone. i think people are bringing their real world baggage into it because most people dont want to think about what the afterlife would actually be like. Are you happy forever? So you cant experience any other emotion and have no free will? Or is it like real life where you can have bad days? well then its just a 2nd life and not intrinsically good. If you are lumped in with all other souls that means you can be with souls you dont like which makes it terrible. Or if its like Not their actual souls but a copy that exists to make you happy then you are just in some sort of fake matrix simulation and nothing is real?
Every possible way the afterlife "paradise" could work is hell for someone and people dont want to think about that to hard so they act like "endless grove where you can eat fruit, watch plays and just relax for eternity (and thats how ardenweld worked until the jailer ruined everything) is somehow bad. Oh no I can live in paradise in eternal fields of beauty and have free food, infinite books to read and free weapons training (basically a Weeb paradise) and after a few hundred or thousands years if i get bored i can move on and focus on my new identity in my new life; who cares if i forget who i was in my past life. Yea horrible.