what do you mean "you really aren't". I was born male, yes. But i identify as female. I am legally considered female (for 99% of situations). Only my birth certificate says Male. NOONE i know calls me by my birth name (except my mother on occasion- but she's senile LMAO-no she's still getting used to it). My birth name and gender are the past, no longer an issue. I think once one has hit a certain milestone in transition they should be considered their "target gender". I agree you shouldn't be able to wake up one day and say "HEY! now i am a chick!" and be allowed to continue that way legally, etc. It takes time, and it is NOT something to be pursued lightly.