You forgot the option "It's only ok if shes female AND hot.
To everyone saying they're astonished/offended/ect. by anyone thinking this type of thing is only okay if the teacher is female, keep this in mind.
You're talking about the majority of your voting base being males ages 16-25.
In other words, guys who wish/want to/ect. have this sort of relationship with their teacher, but obviously don't want peers their age group (or close to it) having the same relationships with male teachers, as that then removes them from the potential mating pool.
I did not vote because I have mixed emotions based more on the OP's story.
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The fact he left his own child and wife for that girl disturbs me more then the fact he as a 41 male is having a relationship with a 18 year old
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I noticed the article went on and on about the older guy. But as the saying says...
"It takes two to tango."
If she wants to be in a relationship with an older man, and she's of legal age, it's her concern and no one else's. Don't really get people's obsession with older x younger relationships regardless of gender.
STRESS
The confusion caused when one's mind
overrides the body's basic
desire to choke the living shit out of
some jerk who desperately needs it
It's the double-standard we live with these days unfortunately. If it's an older man involved with a barely legal woman, he's crucified by peers as a predatory creep, but when the genders are reversed and it's an older woman with a young man, she's pitied as someone who's lonely, neglected, and not right in the head.
I personally don't care about the age gap, but I am revolted by the fact that he's abandoning his family. A creep is a creep, regardless of gender.
You never had the hots for a teacher? I know I did.
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Agreed. If the article wanted to inflame people it should've focused on him leaving his family.
Also agree on the gender double standard. People seem to willing to let women get away with anything. I think I remember a thread about 2 girls bullying a younger boy and people seemed more interested in calling the kid a wimp as opposed to talking down bout the two girls.
STRESS
The confusion caused when one's mind
overrides the body's basic
desire to choke the living shit out of
some jerk who desperately needs it
The sexism is strong with this poll.
Female teacher: It's fine.
Male teacher: Sick perverted child molesting freak!
There is a MAJOR double standard for these things. I mean when a male teacher has an affair with a female student it's a huge problem but when male students have affairs with female teachers comment its like boys will be boys...
I had a hot female French teacher in high school, I took Spanish so I never had her as my own personal instructor. And while, at the time, I would have banged her in an instant, I can realize now, more than a decade later, that this would have been an abusive relationship on her part (despite her being single and in her 30s).
Positions of authority over people make relationships complicated. It's why companies have no-dating policies between employees and supervisors, even though that's legal. It's why the teacher-student relationship paradigm has even more stigma associated with it - because not only is he in a position of power over her, but she's a minor when this relationship started. I don't care if he's a 41 year old teacher and he meets an 18 year old at a bar and strikes up a relationship. I don't care if he's a college professor and she's a 20 year old co-ed, as long as she didn't take his classes or have any affect on her grades. But high school teacher and student is wrong, even if he didn't teach her (which he did), and even if they didn't have sex til she was 18 (which I'm thinking they probably did, even though they say they didn't.)
she's 18
if she wants to suck on some wrinkly old balls and doesn't have a problem w/ it, good for her
Of course, this only looks bad on the old guy, because it makes him look like he is a morally reprehensible cradle robbing pedophile. Which, I personally wouldn't put past him.
As I intimated previously, the second part of this statement is severely misunderstood. There is a clear biological drive for women to seek men who can provide, and middle/high school is the time when biological processes (hormones) most dominate our ability to make decisions. The belief that the older man always initiates these relationships is severely misinformed.
That being said, these two have clearly made a bad decision. She chose a man who made just about every bad decision he could make in the process of leaving his family. There he is in a picture smiling with his new partner, blissfully inconsiderate of the fact that his children are certainly going to see that.
Anyway, I digress. Large age gaps in relationships are fine, once both parties are fully developed adults, but this is clearly not the case. Teachers, or any other authority figures should not be with those under their supervision. If it happens at a later date, no problem. people are entitled to an occasional slip up, but thsi situation didn't result from a slight indiscretion.
I have to agree. It's an odd situation and some more information would be appreciated, but, as it is, it's fine considering that she is 18 and legally an adult.
Also, it would be just as weird if the genders were switched. Anybody saying otherwise just come off as sexist.
the text message part I don't get though 8000 isn't exactly alot I average 4000 a month to a single person. And that has been consistent for the past 3 years.
Okay Freud. Or it's because for most young men sex is just sex and for females they often read too much into it. Most guys would be able to keep some distance to the situation and not see it as a serious relationship that will last until death do them part which seems to be the case for this pair, and be okay with the older female teacher using them for their bodies.
As some of you know fuck buddy relationships rarely work out. I've been in some, my friends have been in some, and it's always the female that will screw it up by trying to change it to a real relationship. They just have a harder time seeing sex as simple sex.
And because some of you are a bit slow, to put it nicely, I can add that this is obviously not true in all cases and there's situations where it's wrong.