There are a lot of unknowns regarding New World. It's being made by a brand new dev team and the first iteration of the game was... not fun. The second iteration might be better but we'll see how well it holds up after the honeymoon launch phase is over. The bigger problem is that, as @Nachtigal touched on, it's being made by Amazon, who haven't made games before and don't have a proven track record. It's unknown if they will pull a bait and switch where months after the game has launched and the media is no longer paying attention to it, if Amazon will insert crazy cash shop shenagains, and who knows if Amazon will shutter it after a couple years if it doesn't turn out to be a smash hit (it seems that every big gaming publisher expects their games to sell at least 4 million copies or something and anything less than that is considered a disappointment or a failure).
Right now in FFXIV you can't play across regions, ie Americans can't play with Europeans. The devs are planning to change that in a few months but that hasn't been implemented yet. The game plays slower than your average MMO so I'd imagine a time delay across the ocean would be tolerable, but again that feature hasn't been implemented yet so who knows how that will pan out in reality. The other problem with FFXIV is that is mostly a singleplayer game: you're going to be spending most of your time running to the next NPC, reading dialogue boxes talking to that NPC, watching cutscenes, doing solo duties, and then the occasional dungeon or trial you queue through LFR/Duty Finder with other people. FFXIV isn't a very co-op friendly game at first. Later on in the game, there is stuff you can do with friends but that's after you've gone through the 200-300 hour long story.
The only MMOs I can think of that would meet all of your criteria would be old tab target MMOs like STO, LotRO, SWTOR, etc. Again these are dated and have predatory cash shops. The big names like ESO or GW2 are action based and require you to react immediately, and a time delay across the ocean isn't going to be a very fun experience.