Zerdus : "So what's the deal? Why has Blizzard made it so that we are gearing like a DPS spec?"
Answer #1 : because Blizzard keeps trying to render avoidance tanking obsolete for the past five years.
Answer #2 : because avoidance tanking and reactive "healing" do not intertwine too well.
Arothand : "(...) it blew my mind that Theck and others were advocating not only HARD CAPPING Expertise (...)"
Are you new(er) to tanking ? Expertise has been (very) good for tanks ever since it has been implemented, in 2.3.