"Best sex lasts for between seven and thirteen minutes"

[vizzle]

http://www.news-medical.net/news/2008/03/05/35942.aspx

To summarize, sex expert therapists were surveyed, and they concluded that the best sex is from 7-13 minutes. Anything below that is too short, anything above is too long and disappointing. Do you agree with this?

According to sex experts the best sex lasts for between seven and thirteen minutes and even a three minute quickie can be satisfying.
A major survey by Canadian and American sex therapists has concluded that the ideal length of time to have penetrative sex is under fifteen minutes.

The research was prompted by the confusion in the public domain about how long intercourse should last, an issue which sometimes causes distress to both men and women even though it is often for quite different reasons.

In order to quantify the problem the expert sex therapists came up with what was "adequate," "desirable," "too short," and "too long" intercourse.

The research revealed that the average sex therapist believes an "adequate" length for intercourse was from 3 to 7 minutes; "desirable" from 7 to 13 minutes; "too short" from 1 to 2 minutes and "too long" from 10 to 30 minutes.

The study is the first to review what the experts believe is the ideal length of time to have intercourse.

Lead researcher Dr. Eric Corty, from the Behrend College in Erie, Pennsylvania, says research has shown that the expectation by many people is that sex should last much longer and this expectation he says leads to disappointment and dissatisfaction.

Dr. Corty says the research should help eliminate unrealistic beliefs that healthy sex should last a long time.

Dr. Corty says the fantasy model of male sexuality harboured by both men and women, has men with large penises, rock-hard erections, who can sustain sexual activity all night long.

He says the study provides a realistic model of sexuality, which is useful both in treating people with sexual concerns and dysfunctions, and on a broader level will help prevent the onset of sexual dysfunctions.

Australian experts say there is a dearth of data on Australians' expectation of sex but anecdotal evidence suggests most Australian women would be happy with the therapists' "adequate" time of three to seven minutes, while men would not.

The study concludes that intercourse which lasts from 3 to 13 minutes is normal and says the dissemination of this information to the public may change what are often unrealistic expectations which cause distress.

[Kisho]

Sounds about right to me really. It seems like porn sets unrealistic expectations, when reality is very far from that.

[Elim Garak]

Are they sure it's minutes and not seconds?

[Kerath]

For the actual act of intercourse, I'd agree that sounds about right.
Foreplay, building up the anticipation beforehand etc is what takes up the bulk of the time, in my experience.

[Sastank]

Sounds right. I usually go like 20 or so after the build up and teasing and whatnot.

[vizzle]

I've always tried to at least make it 20-30minutes, so it's surprising to me that people are having such short sessions. Not that I'm artificially extending it just for the sake of length, but it's too fun to end so quickly. Are you guys just doing one position?

[Sackman]

I've gone from 3 mins to 7 hours before. When you're younger I think you just do it over and over again because you can. 10 minutes sounds good, any longer than that and the girl isn't for me, what a bore.

[Arunu]

sounds about right yes.
more time spent on foreplay and teasing than on " the deed"

[Deleted]

Seems about right, if we really wanted to have sex for such an extended period of time we'd probably just go more than once.

[Deleted]

For the actual act of intercourse, I'd agree that sounds about right.
Foreplay, building up the anticipation beforehand etc is what takes up the bulk of the time, in my experience.

Exactly this! Although I would say closer to 13min then 7 tbh.

[Ryuukon]

Less penis waving in this thread please. You can say what you want, but we all know better. Quit trying to be a porn star and be honest for once.

[Kerath]

I've always tried to at least make it 20-30minutes, so it's surprising to me that people are having such short sessions. Not that I'm artificially extending it just for the sake of length, but it's too fun to end so quickly. Are you guys just doing one position?

Ok, difficult to answer your question without going into unnecessary detail, lol.
Nope, not just one position, but 10 or so minutes of penetrative sex is more than enough time to 'get there' for me - more than once, if we've been particularly attentive to the preliminaries. After that, it starts to either get a bit uncomfortable or a bit numb, in sensitive areas. Plus, if a couple switches from doing the deed, to other things, then back to doing the deed, if you get my drift, they can make the actual sex last much longer, without, erm... Inducing discomfort.

[Agoonga]

But I paid for the full hour!

[Venara]

Sounds about right for people who have been in a relationship for a while. From experience, I can say that, when I am with someone new, in the first few months we tend to have longer sex, usually between 30 to 60 minutes and then it will slowly go down to something in the area of 10-20 minutes. I'm guessing younger people, and mind you I'm only 27 myself, would usually tend to go longer than the desirable 7-13 minutes also.

Personally, I think the 7-13 minutes is something that establishes itself with the age of the involved persons and the age of the relationship.

*edit* Like to point out that I understand "intercourse" in that article as "from start to finish", not just the actual act of intercourse.

*edit#2* Seems like the article did only mean the actual act. Either way, I stand by what I said. Personally, I'm usually satisfied with 15-20 minutes for the whole deal. I guess it depends on if you like lots of foreplay or not.

[PizzaSHARK]

7-13 minutes for the actual act sounds about right, it jives with what I've heard before on the same subject. I'm assuming this isn't factoring foreplay - which can last for a while - into account.

[yetgdhfgh]

my thoughts are you cant put a time limit on what you could consider great sex cause if you are doing it right you wont even notice the time

if you aint doing it right then the girl will be looking at the clock and say FFS aint you finished yet

also i didnt think we was aloud to have a grown up talk about sex on this forum

[Venara]

Oh and by the way, since I saw someone edited his post there a second ago where it before said mods will be all over the thread (you know who you are ;P):

As long as you keep this civilised, don't get all graphic or just start boasting about how great you are in bed, this thread should be fine. Same warning as always, basically ;P Keep it tasteful. This is an interesting topic and can definitely be discussed if everyone plays nice.

[PizzaSHARK]

my thoughts are you cant put a time limit on what you could consider great sex cause if you are doing it right you wont even notice the time

if you aint doing it right then the girl will be looking at the clock and say FFS aint you finished yet

Well, I dunno about you, but if I'm doing things right I'll be finished around the same time she's finished.

[Kerath]

*edit* Like to point out that I understand "intercourse" in that article as "from start to finish", not just the actual act of intercourse.

I'm glad you added that edit - think most of us are speaking from the viewpoint of actual penetrative sex. Adding on foreplay etc means it's usually at least 30 mins from start to finish, as far as I'm concerned.

[Deleted]

For men, or for women, too?

Jesus, 13 minutes, I don't think I'll ever be able to finish in 13 minutes.