Keep steering the conversation towards actually discussing whether or not raid punishments exist, and whether or not they should, and away from personal attacks or arguments strictly between two people, okay?
Honestly I think the positional requirements ARE out of date, because there's no "reward" from the "risk." For some reason Blizzard decided that specs should do the same damage/healing/tanking ability regardless of relative difficulty, which I personally find odd, but that's how it IS. To lose damage or have to work especially hard (COUNTER to raid mechanics) to maintain the same damage as an easier spec is... silly.