I could but people are unpredictable and personality/habits change over time.
I don't need men to be responsible beyond wearing a condom if it's just about sex. That being said, I choose my partners carefully.Ever since women started thinking like men the rate of marriage has been going down. Women who think like you basically hand men their trump card, so they don't have a reason to be responsible.
This is just silly because lots of men adopt, they just adopt internationally (same as single women).Here sexism comes in to play. Women get to adopt and men don't. We are handicapped when it comes to reproduction which has been the main driving force of society. Men have been aspiring to power and wealth to ensure the survival of their children, because men can't give birth they have to compensate with time and energy.
Also why do you think you are so special? Do you honestly think that there are no men worthy of your hand? You could just look for someone who shares your interests (i.e. money and power).
This has nothing to do with being special, it is about protecting myself and my assets and having the fundamental understanding that quality relationships that last a lifetime that are few and far between.
With that statement, you're basically "consigning" yourself to what I stated, a conclusion based on your assumption that if you get married, your husband will inevitably become a slob, and you'll be forced to do everything for him until you divorce him. Now, keeping in mind this sentiment, in relation to the other person you quoted, you seemed to support the notion people could be life partners without needing to be "married," therefore creating a conclusion that being married is the only thing that would lead to you filling some familial role you don't wish to fill (i.e, serving slob husband,) whereas you could otherwise remain not married, but still with the person, and be free of such a fate.
One which the first statement of my response post addressed.
“Do not lose time on daily trivialities. Do not dwell on petty detail. For all of these things melt away and drift apart within the obscure traffic of time. Live well and live broadly. You are alive and living now. Now is the envy of all of the dead.” ~ Emily3, World of Tomorrow
Words to live by.
You know that you could very well end the same way right? An active and ambitious person like yourself could lose his drive and end up playing wow with a house full of cats.
If they aren't happy they can get a divorce. Men get the short end of the stick 9 out of 10 times when it comes to divorce. Their suicide rates sky rocket once they lose their children, homes and loved one.
http://www.aolnews.com/2010/03/10/su...esearch-finds/
And while married women often balance employment with child rearing, Denney said statistics suggest they're coping quite well. "Women remain the primary caretakers in most households," he said. "They're working more, yet feeling better.''
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There are no assumptions. Not all husbands turn into lazy slobs (my father worked two jobs part time--including being a military reservist--as supplementary income for our family outside of his career as a commercial airline pilot), obviously not marrying someone does not mean they would not become a lazy slob.
My fundamental belief is that most marriages do not work. There is a 50% divorce rate in the U.S., but I would argue that less than half of those couples who are married are in a mutually satisfying relationship; the rest stay in the relationship due to financial constraints/children/emotional constraints/habit. That is not a very good success rate for marriage.
“Do not lose time on daily trivialities. Do not dwell on petty detail. For all of these things melt away and drift apart within the obscure traffic of time. Live well and live broadly. You are alive and living now. Now is the envy of all of the dead.” ~ Emily3, World of Tomorrow
Words to live by.
Of course, but I am forced to live with myself if that happens, unlike living with another person.
Also I'm a dog person.
Yup, men are more emotionally invested than women are, and since they are usually the one making the greater amount of income, they are the ones who usually end up paying spousal support. Also women are more likely to get primary custody of children.If they aren't happy they can get a divorce. Men get the short end of the stick 9 out of 10 times when it comes to divorce. Their suicide rates sky rocket once they lose their children, homes and loved one.
People stay married for a variety of reasons, extracting oneself from a marriage can be a long, emotionally taxing, and financially costly process.
I just wish people wouldn't blame marriage as an institution for people failing to marry the right person. Marriage has it's benefits including the sense of stability and commitment. There are no guarantees people will stay together with or without being married.
Oh yes, I am familiar with what you posted. The 50% divorce rate is accurate which is why I stated it, but yes if you break it down by age of marriage it does look more promising.
It is possible that divorce statistics will improve over time rather than decline as marriage continues to be viewed as a lifestyle option rather than being socially mandated. At the same time however, divorce statistics could also increase as spouses realize that being divorced carries less of a social stigma than it once did.
You don't have to care about other human beings but just be honest about it. If you are not honest about it then yes you are a pig.
I wonder how many girls you would be hanging out with if you told them about the others.
Or is there some statistic, experiment or study about how people don't care being lied to?
This. You obviously have the lifestyle of someone that does not want to get married. Who cares what she says. She obviously wants to get married, she should just move on and be with someone that wants to settle down. Case closed. Marriage is a personal decision. Not everyone wants to, and it isn't right for everyone.
Well...honestly if you believe a marriage isn't going to work, then it won't. Both people have to put 100% into a relationship in order for it to work, obviously. Most people these days get married because it's the thing to do, they don't understand its original purpose and believe that any problems that occur during the relationship will fix themselves just because they're married. When problems do arise most people don't have the patience to resolve them (mostly in part to individuals never thinking that they themselves might be to blame) because they believed that marriage would magically make them love each other forever.
You seem to be acting as if you have no control over the situation and that a marriage will definitely fail no matter what you do. You seem like a smart person, I think you'd be able to reason whether or not your partner is worth marrying or not.
It's could've and would've. Not could of and would of. Not sure when "of" started meaning "have," but everyone who thinks it does needs to go back to school.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rlvMAS_20K4
I hate to repeat myself, but ever since women started thinking like men ("sex with no strings is attached"), men have been losing the desire to push themselves.
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I like how people are saying "If you chose not to get married you are a pig and people will look at you being disguested at the age of 35"
Or "If you say you dont want to be married, then you are not old enough to know better"
Or that "there must be something wrong with you, you are insecure (and other reasons), if you dont get married"
So if people dont share your opinion, then there must be something wrong with them? Would it not sound more reasonable to say "You are insecure because you need to have it written down on paper to feel secure with your partner"?
Why do i think marriage fail? Because of "Love", you think you "love someone", but in reality 2 years later you no longer "love this person", and you are boored of them. Sure maybe you look at them as if they are your best friend, but what about everything else that is suppose to be in a relationship? Should you stay together and dont be sexually attracted to your partner, and then "live like friends/roomates" do?
“The worst thing I can be is the same as everybody else. I hate that.”
In my country parents get some benefits when being married if they get a child. If they're separated, only the woman gets the benefits.
Preach bro, PREACH!!!
I never want to get married... And I probably never will be with me not wanting to have kids. To me, marriage it's just more unneeded headaches and problems in life.
I really, REALLY like number 3 by the way. I have never really understood this whole obligation for a man to settle down with someone and support a woman and kids either, it irritates me to no end.
But uhh, 5 women on the side? That's just plain uncool IMO. I would never cheat or fool around on the side while dating a woman simply because I would never do something to someone that I wouldn't want done to me.
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1. Being married you can have that sex on a regular basis mean something more, having a special connection with that person that you don't have with anyone else.
2. It seems you only care about yourself.
3. Men and woman are different and they complete each other, in a marriage, both sides take care of each other and should be selfless toward each other. Completely reciprocal.
4. Sex makes children! Who would of thought? Children need their loving parents that love each other (True love, being selfless, not JUST lust).
Stop using women as objects, even if they want to be treated as such. Treat them as a person.
People using sex just to "have fun" and don't care about the baby it makes (gets murdered in a lot of cases), don't care about what it does to yourself, how having multiple partners just makes you more and more empty. Does not care about both sides families, that baby was someones grandson/daughter/, cousin, nephew etc.
It makes me sad when people keep on having sex with so many people and don't want any commitment, or are only committed until something "better" comes along, or to "keep your options open." You are "single" but keep on "coupling."
For many european countries there are actually plenty of reasons *not* to get married. Most importantly, taxes (married couples often pay more taxes because they are taxed together) and legal stuff. Then, the whole mess with the second name. Finally, divorce is extremely expensive in any case.
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I don't need a piece of paper or a ridiculous ritual to have a special connection to other person.