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"People who alter or destroy works of art and our cultural heritage for profit or as an excercise of power, are barbarians" - George Lucas 1988
i believe in the concept, but i dont find it unreasonable to not take that measure. Honestly you have to look at it as a contract, some people feel their emotions dont need an on paper contract to demonstrate their connection or feelings for another. Unfortunately many people avoid marriage to avoid long term obligation that they might have sat down and talked with somebody long ago. People who get married can't even maintain the social contract sometimes.
People dont avoid marriage because they cant for whatever reason find someone that can put up with them every day, it's just they dont need the piece of paper to prove they are who they are.
Modern gaming apologist: I once tasted diarrhea so shit is fine.
"People who alter or destroy works of art and our cultural heritage for profit or as an excercise of power, are barbarians" - George Lucas 1988
Marriage isn't for everyone. Granted, it is a commitment that shows your devotion to stick with a person through thick or thin, however, not everyone is compatible like that.
Theres nothing wrong with not being married, but there isn't anything wrong with being married either. Stop trying to force your ridiculous opinions on everyone.
I feel like this thread's title is wrong.
"I personally can't think of a good reason to get married" Would be more appropriate.
There's people that see a good reason to marry, and who are you to tell them there are none? If you don't want to, that's fine. But if there are people that feel there's a reason, be it love, lower taxes or w/e. YOU decide whether or not you think you have a good reason. And if you do, go for it.
Modern gaming apologist: I once tasted diarrhea so shit is fine.
"People who alter or destroy works of art and our cultural heritage for profit or as an excercise of power, are barbarians" - George Lucas 1988
Modern gaming apologist: I once tasted diarrhea so shit is fine.
"People who alter or destroy works of art and our cultural heritage for profit or as an excercise of power, are barbarians" - George Lucas 1988
I haven't read the last 5 pages, but I just wanted to point out that it IS, in fact, a religious sacrament - at least, in the Catholic Church. It's one of seven that most Catholics go through in their life (others being Baptism, Reconciliation, Communion, Confirmation, Anointing of the Sick, and Ordination - should you choose that path instead of marriage).
As for OP, reading through about 15 pages or so, I find it really amusing how bent out of shape everyone seems to get regarding others who want to/don't want to get married. If you're with someone who wants to get married and you do, too, then huzzah go for it. If you do, but they don't then you just have to consider if you really want to get married THAT much and, if you do, then perhaps that partner of yours isn't the right one for you. And if no one ever got married, who would bang the bridesmaids or friends of the brides at receptions! I'm at an age where my friends have slowly, but surely been getting engaged (one friend married two years ago) and I love going to weddings. It's a good time to hang with people in a nice suit, have a few drinks, and celebrate the hopefully good times ahead. I don't see myself getting married any time soon, however.
Myself, I can see myself getting married if only to have a sweet-ass reception with my buds and my family and just have rockin' good time. Obviously, though, I'm not just marrying willy-nilly for the reception. Also maybe to shut my mother up and make her feel good haha....but we won't tell her that .
We can talk about evolution and whatnot and how it means women benefit more from monogamy than men, but I'm sure you already know that.
A lot of women are insecure (see above) about not being married. They think you are unwilling to commit and therefore will run out on them at any time. Which sounds like a possibility with you, since she is only one of 6.
I'm not saying there's anything wrong with what you're doing. Sex is great, but at some point when you're older and don't want sex anymore (usually happens to older men/women) you might find yourself wishing you had someone. Not that that's any reason either.
Just dump her if she's pushing for something you don't want. Not sure how you keep up 6 girls anyway. Maybe downsizing is a good idea . Cheers.
Ordination OR marriage? What if you choose to be single and not become a priest/nun? Paul wrote that he felt called to be a single man and wrote about it in his New Testament works, for example.
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Actually a female biologist wrote a book a few years ago arguing that MEN benefit more from monogamy than women, because you as a woman want the most biologically fit father for your children, as well as help provide for your offspring. I can't remember the name of the book, but it was very convincing.
At minimum I would argue that monogamy should "benefit" men and women equally. In today's society, and in a marriage relationship, it benefits men more than it does women now that women are expected to work outside of the home yet are still primary caregivers of offspring as well as do a majority of the housework ("second shift"); also studies have shown that it is MEN rather than women who are happier once married; women's happiness stays the same or actually declines (although both genders experience a decrease in happiness once children are born, which improves once they leave the house--seriously).
Last edited by Celista; 2013-02-18 at 09:58 PM.
5 women on the side?? we believe every word you say buddy
You're right, there is no point in getting married just to be married. Works the same way for enormous amount of things in life. Other then that - it's a commitment to the person you want to be together with, and you are clearly not ready for it. And the reasons are different for everyone.
One thing that is good about it is the fact that you are not that much pressured to create a family by the society just for the status benefits. People are getting more open-minded in general and of course it affects the status of marriage.