Many researches say that couples who didn't have sex before marriage had higher marriage satisfaction compared to those who did
The best I can say about this is that it is very naive. You severely underestimate how different people's sexual desires can be. And you can't force yourself to be a certain way for someone when it is sexually unfulfilling for you, that will cause severe problems in the relationship in the long term. Just as you need to be compatible mentally and emotionally, you need to be compatible sexually. All three are equally important in an adult relationship.
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Since like 80% of people have had sex by the age of 18 you can probably imagine any survey like that has severe sampling bias. I believe the one you are referring to was conducted by a professor at a Mormon university. Specifically, Brigham Young University's School of Family Life - published in the Journal of Family Psychology (2010). I think you can probably see there might be a teensy bit of bias in there.
I share your sentiment. I wish I would have waited. Personally I don't see how it could possibly be bad for a relationship.
Way too much importance is placed on sex. Yeah its awesome, but it certainly wouldn't make or break a relationship for me. And if it did there would certainly be something wrong with the relationship. I have had 2 serious relationships apart from the one I am currently in. The first the guy was terrible, absolutely awful in bed. The second was amazing, world stopping great in bed. The quality of sex did not in anyway effect either relationship. And it shouldn't, you should be with someone because of how you feel towards them and how they feel about you. That is it.
This means that if the quality of the sex changes -as it surely will- you maintain a committed relationship. This reflects and encourages tolerance and forgiveness in that if the quality of the relationship changes -as it surely will- you understand that they are still deserving of kindness and affection. This is love. Well said.
its better to do it before u get married. one wrong move and oops.. early pregnancy.
plus most women dont want to marry a guy who doesnt know his business.
wrap it up and get practice.
I meant "prostitute" and "free".
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At least Reg got it, lol.
It made me chuckle too.
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No, it is far from selfish. And a relationship is not caring about what the other wants solely. It is a give and take.
Sounds to me like you haven't had good sex, it is very special. Perhaps you just haven't had the chance to meet the one to do it for you?
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How can there be "higher satisfaction"? They have no comparison.
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Wait till marriage?
Ofcourse not, by that time you are old and dryed up.
U should **** as much as you can when u are young
Talking from my personal point of view, I'm a Muslim and need to be married before having sex with a woman :3
I would still respect any Muslim man/woman (or any man/woman for that matter) who deliberately waited till marriage; since I know none (of all my Muslim friends I mean) :P That's an amazing amount of self restraint, (misguided or not, that's personal opinion) and difficult to find nowadays. I live in a society that considers itself fairly conservative, and even then I know of only ONE person who MAY have waited till she got married to have sex.
These forums are getting stranger by the day. Soon gaming will be a secondary topic to these kinds of questions and discussion. dafuq is the matter with people on the interwebz.