Girlfriend lives with a bunch of guys

[Nero Duskwind]

If your gf is promiscuous, it's not going to matter if she lives with 4 guys or just with you. So I'm not quite sure what you are getting at.

Exactly. If your woman is promiscuous, the fact that she's living with you just means it's more effort for her to hide the fact that she's getting dicked down by someone else. Hell, in that case you're better off with her living w/ guy roomies. At least then it makes for a much cleaner break when you catch her getting the fingercuff treatment.

[Deleted]

Sweeping generalisation much? Nothing to do with 'modern thinking' as you so ineptly put it. Get of your high horse and realise not everyone is like you or your girlfriend, also realise that while you are not promiscuous others are. Having a fuck buddy / flat mate is normal for a lot of people.

1. Who the hell equals a fuckbuddy and a flatmate? They are not the same .
2. using ur flatmate as a fuckbuddy is plain retarded and it will bite u in the ass (in de bad way)
3. fk promiscuous people, grow up.

[Deleted]

Then you should trust her enough to resist

You could get to know those guys, that might alleviate your fears?

This, all this trust bullshit is laughable. I agree you should trust her and not let it come between you, but on the other hand the "deal with it" attitude is stupid. You are jelous and you could like this guy suggested get to know some of the guys to cool the jelousy down.

Nothing wrong with being jelous in a healthy way, tbh I'd find it odd if you were 100% ok with this.

[Vargur]

What if your girlfriend lived in an apartment with 4 guys. Would you be fine with that?

Girlfriend studies to be an engineer and are currently living in an apartment with 4 guys and she thinks i´m silly cause i don´t much like it.
I trust her, but i know what guys are like.

Depends how she looks. Maybe post a pic.
If she's hot and not fat, you could expect nightly orgies, no worries. She'll still be your girlfriend.

[Nero Duskwind]

I'd be pissed tbh, those saying you should trust her probably never had a gf before. Even if you do trust her, its just non-sense to accept that.

If you feel that threatened by the situation, perhaps its your own manhood that should be questioned and not that of the ones you disagree with.

[c2dholla619]

What, like, rapists?



Do you trust her? If so then what's the problem? What does their behavior have to do with anything? Have they actually acted like pigs or are you just generalizing? Are you insecure such that these guys hitting on her makes you feel like she's going to leave you? Well, that's your problem.

i am a guy i now how guy. there have been too many cases in the past of these type of situation not going well. it would be insanely naive of me to say that nothing could possible go wrong. my motto is hope for the best yet prepare for the worst (yes im one of those crazy preppers). i have seen these situation turn bad and would prefer to prevent it. but if it does happen and goes how i dont want it then that may be destiny. just move on to the next fish.

its easy to play the i will trust her card but it never that simple in reality, and there are many(if not the vast majority) girls who would want you to be against it just to show that you care and vise versa.

it would be fine if its was just a trip or i was one of the 4 dudes then i wouldnt have a problem at all

[Nero Duskwind]

my motto is hope for the best yet prepare for the worst (yes im one of those crazy preppers). i have seen these situation turn bad and would prefer to prevent it. but if it does happen and goes how i dont want it then that may be destiny. just move on to the next fish.

its easy to play the i will trust her card but it never that simple in reality, and there are many(if not the vast majority) girls who would want you to be against it just to show that you care and vise versa.

I'm a bit of a prepper myself and i agree that actually trusting someone is easier said than done but the prepper in me makes it easy to cut my losses and move on when something bad does happen. Personally, I'm at a point in my life where I'm too old to be playing these bullshit games of insecurity.

[wowaccounttom]

it seems that guys forget how they really think.. having a girl around all the time, will eventually make you sexually attracted to her, one way or another, face, body, w.e... even faster if there is no other to be had.

as for women, while i cant say for sure, from what i've seen, they tend to become attracted to personality, car, way guys dress and stuff like that.. unless the guy is really hot at which point girls seem to forget themselves.

sexual attraction towards people that you spend lots of time with is totally common, normal and while it should be avoided, not all people are able to stop themselves from messing around.

[The Casualty]

I'm a bit of a prepper myself and i agree that actually trusting someone is easier said than done but the prepper in me makes it easy to cut my losses and move on when something bad does happen. Personally, I'm at a point in my life where I'm too old to be playing these bullshit games of insecurity.

Amen. Once I figured out that whether I was jealous and had (imo irrational) fears about being left or cheated on or was confident enough that I found someone I could trust completely didn't affect the outcome at all, the choice was pretty simple. One caused a headache, the other didn't.

[Pharm]

Quick, your girlfriend's birthday is coming up.

Which necklace do you give her?

[Deleted]

Wow, this thread really went off-track.

To clear some things out.
We been together for 3 years.
We live 450km/280miles apart cause she's studying and i pretty much need a job there to be able to move there. Working on it.
She don't drink, nor will she ever.
She did not know she would live with 4 guys (now 5 btw) and has no control over who moves in.
She has not given me any reason to doubt her, quite the contrary.
I trust her fully and i'm like 95% fine with her living with a bunch of guys.

Someone stated before that they wouldn't like the guys to get an eyeful and i think thats the problem.
Also, as someone earlier in this thread said. Shit is gray, not black or white!

The thread did however serve it's purpose. I now know how many that would be fine with it and not. Thank you.

[Deleted]

I believe that real world isn't like all these porn movies and your girlfriend won't just walk naked in the apartment and give bjs to all her roommates.
The main question is how sure you are that she loves you?
To be honest, I wouldn't really mind my gf living with a bunch of guys, if she cheats on me I just dump her or throw her out of the window, make some surprise visits to check if everythings is ok .

Remember that you are still young and if you don't trust her completely you should probably wait and find another girlfriend.

[The Casualty]

it seems that guys forget how they really think.. having a girl around all the time, will eventually make you sexually attracted to her, one way or another, face, body, w.e... even faster if there is no other to be had.

as for women, while i cant say for sure, from what i've seen, they tend to become attracted to personality, car, way guys dress and stuff like that.. unless the guy is really hot at which point girls seem to forget themselves.

sexual attraction towards people that you spend lots of time with is totally common, normal and while it should be avoided, not all people are able to stop themselves from messing around.

While I've had plenty of opportunities through my line of work to get something on the side, I (and all other men/women) can say "no". It really is that simple. And if that other person can't help themselves in that situation, they aren't going to be able to when they work as an engineer - a field that is virtually all men.

[pucGG]

I'd demand she moved out or I would break up. There is just no fucking way I would accept the situation.

If you do not trust her you should not be in a relationship with her.

I do 100% trust that my GF will not sleep in the same appartment as 4 other guys. If that trust is broken so is the relationship.

[Carlosdanger]

The main question is, are you being invited to the Friday night orgies or not?

[jmmathe1988]

I'm sort of in the same boat as you, granted she doesn't live with any of them but she is a tom girl and has all guy friends. The first girl ive dated like this, i'm constantly wondering. But like others say its all about trust, even if you are freaking out on the inside you have to except its her life. And if you try to force her out of something she doesn't want to get out of your going to cause a fight and you push too hard loose her. I know cause I am always asking who's this, and whos that, and eventually I just said fuck it and said to myself "if she cheats she cheats, plenty out there". Nobody likes to be told what to do, if I was you id bring it up once very calmly and see where it goes. If it doesn't go your way drop it and just except it, assuming she means a lot to you of course!

[Gheld]

Quick, your girlfriend's birthday is coming up.

Which necklace do you give her?
*SNIP*

I really like the coloration on the second one.

[c2dholla619]

I'm a bit of a prepper myself and i agree that actually trusting someone is easier said than done but the prepper in me makes it easy to cut my losses and move on when something bad does happen. Personally, I'm at a point in my life where I'm too old to be playing these bullshit games of insecurity.

i can agree with that.
i would tell her how i feel about and if she continued then not much i could do about it except hope for the best. what ever happens happens, move on to the next fish

[Itisamuh]

I do 100% trust that my GF will not sleep in the same appartment as 4 other guys. If that trust is broken so is the relationship.

Well said.

This trust argument is amusing. Caution and courtesy are NOT the same thing as distrust. If my girlfriend had a loaded gun, I would trust her not to shoot me. This does not change the fact that I would not want her aiming a loaded gun at me.

[Nuckels]

It takes two to tango, you don't trust her then you got bigger issues.

(Thats not to say I would be a 100% comfortable with it either.)