Hey guys, I need to ask some advice or thoughts on a situation I've gotten myself into. I am posting this here on a gaming forum because I feel like some of you may understand this situation better than say, a typical relationship forum. I am a married female gamer in my twenties. My husband also is a gamer, but plays a different game. However, he doesn't have a problem with how much I play, which is a lot and I have a lot of friends in game. Our guild uses a voice program and we use it every day socially, as well as for raids/stuff. Obviously as a woman, sometimes I get extra attention.
Any way, so a little over a month ago, I became friends with someone in the game. A guy, younger than me. He was a really positive, helpful player and fun to hang out with. We became facebook friends, which I never thought much about because I have lots of people who I've played games with over the years as friends on facebook. We started doing a lot of stuff together, some days being in a group for 6-8 hours a day, occasionally with other people or sometimes just us. Over time, we shared a lot of details about our lives and became quite close. He was flirty and fun to talk too and I got a definite vibe from him that he liked me, but I made it really clear from the start that I was married and whatever we had going on was limited to within the game, a "game relationship" only I guess. He would say he understood, but he still would make lots of lovey-dovey comments. I'll be honest. I like the attention. I like him a lot. I hate to admit it, but I do have some conflicted feelings for him and I would be absolutely crushed to lose him as a friend. But again, I am married, so... this puts me in a bad spot. I know this is a grey area, but I'm not interested in leaving my husband or starting anything irl. We had so many conversations with me telling him how it would not work between us: I'm not available, distance, age, life situation, how he needs to find someone single near him instead, etc...
My dilemma is that I feel he's developed some pretty hardcore feelings for me. He has pet names for me. He's jealous of my husband. He sometimes talks about stuff we should do in real life or makes comments about what a good couple we'd be(in rl). I know if I told him that I wanted to meet him, he'd fly here in a heartbeat(which would be a terrible idea and not something I'd ever suggest btw). I don't know what to do. I am really attached to him(obviously not as much as he is), and if I were single, maybe I'd consider it but I'm not and I don't want to mess with this guys head. How can I fix this?