I'm tanking in a pretty casual raid guild, just clearing HC BRF at the moment. Recently, when progressing on Kromog, I died a few times during tanking. As I checked the logs, it turns out the other tank (a BRM Monk) didn't stand close enough and I ate a few Fists of Stones alone. Since healing is a little tight (we have no paladins and no resto druids, but 2 shamans and a disc priest), this spiked me pretty badly (~1,9 million damage over 25 seconds) and eventually killed me (despite death striking 3 times in the last 10 seconds before I died (maybe I might have been able to squeeze in one more, but I think I fucked up).
However, after the raid the age old debate about my stat weights came up. "Why aren't you using a stamina flask?", "Why aren't you gearing for versatility, it must be super good for DKs, giving your healing ability?", "Why aren't you gearing for more Multistrike, wouldn't your HP go through the roof because of Shadow of Death?" etc.
So, how do I explain to these guys why using stuff like Pillar of the Earth or Stamina Flasks is generally a bad idea and how do I tell my "tank officer" (the BRM Monk) that he fucked up without having to quote Troxism's 9000+ words Blood DK bible?
Or should I just do my guild a favor and let them tell me what to do in order to avoid drama (even if it is the wrong decision and especially given the fact that NONE of them ever tanked as a DK and that they don't have a single clue about Blood DKs in general ("What do you mean, your Blood Shield can't be up all the time?!")?