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    Quote Originally Posted by Izalla View Post
    A big speech from my boyfriend about how he's not good enough for me and he's got too much going on in his life and he needs to figure things out and that he can't be with me...

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    ex boyfriend I should say seeing as he just broke up with me...
    I'm sorry Iz, that sucks
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    Quote Originally Posted by Izalla View Post
    A big speech from my boyfriend about how he's not good enough for me and he's got too much going on in his life and he needs to figure things out and that he can't be with me...

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    ex boyfriend I should say seeing as he just broke up with me...
    That both sucks and is rather confusing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Izalla View Post
    A big speech from my boyfriend about how he's not good enough for me and he's got too much going on in his life and he needs to figure things out and that he can't be with me...

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    ex boyfriend I should say seeing as he just broke up with me...
    im so sorry

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rokom View Post
    That both sucks and is rather confusing.
    If you think you're confused imagine how much I am...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Izalla View Post
    If you think you're confused imagine how much I am...
    Breakups suck, I hope that I never have to go through one again (especially with marriage not too far away now).

    I hope everything gets better, Izzy <3
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    Quote Originally Posted by Izalla View Post
    If you think you're confused imagine how much I am...
    Yeah, if I was in your shoes it would be one of those situations where I immediately go to take a power nap and hope that giving my brain a reset helps untangle some reasons. I know that you'd mentioned that Logan gave you similar speeches before, so I assumed he had some sort of weird ingrained self-esteem issues, but I had hoped that he'd sort those out instead of letting those thoughts consume him.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rokom View Post
    Yeah, if I was in your shoes it would be one of those situations where I immediately go to take a power nap and hope that giving my brain a reset helps untangle some reasons. I know that you'd mentioned that Logan gave you similar speeches before, so I assumed he had some sort of weird ingrained self-esteem issues, but I had hoped that he'd sort those out instead of letting those thoughts consume him.
    He'd told me lately he didn't think that anymore, we'd talked about it before and I promised him that I didn't care about any of the things he was self conscious about that made him think I was too good for him... and that he was just wrong about other things.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Izalla View Post
    He'd told me lately he didn't think that anymore, we'd talked about it before and I promised him that I didn't care about any of the things he was self conscious about that made him think I was too good for him... and that he was just wrong about other things.
    Basically he's a dummy for leaving someone as great as you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Izalla View Post
    He'd told me lately he didn't think that anymore, we'd talked about it before and I promised him that I didn't care about any of the things he was self conscious about that made him think I was too good for him... and that he was just wrong about other things.
    That's even more confusing then. I wonder if he said he didn't think that anymore just so you wouldn't worry, or if something happened that made him start thinking that way again.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Izalla View Post
    A big speech from my boyfriend about how he's not good enough for me and he's got too much going on in his life and he needs to figure things out and that he can't be with me...

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    ex boyfriend I should say seeing as he just broke up with me...
    I'm sorry... *hugs*

    This "I'm not good enough for you" has been a plague of my life too. I've never really thought about it, but I suppose it hurts people on the receiving end no less than people thinking that. I think I got over it recently, after a lot of self-digging. Hope your BF gets over it too eventually, regardless of anything!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rokom View Post
    That's even more confusing then. I wonder if he said he didn't think that anymore just so you wouldn't worry, or if something happened that made him start thinking that way again.
    He won't tell me what's going on, just keeps saying about stuff going on with his family. I don't know why he won't explain what he's dealing with, it's driving me crazy that he's kept all this stress and struggling and stuff from me so that I had no idea what was going on. Makes me feel like a horrible girlfriend that he couldn't even confide in me...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Izalla View Post
    He won't tell me what's going on, just keeps saying about stuff going on with his family. I don't know why he won't explain what he's dealing with, it's driving me crazy that he's kept all this stress and struggling and stuff from me so that I had no idea what was going on. Makes me feel like a horrible girlfriend that he couldn't even confide in me...
    How long were you together for?
    If it wasn't an overly long period of time, it's entirely possible he just didn't want to burden you with something serious. I've been with my partner for 5 years and I haven't told her my parents are on the verge of divorce, because I don't want to stress her out with my family issues.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Izalla View Post
    A big speech from my boyfriend about how he's not good enough for me and he's got too much going on in his life and he needs to figure things out and that he can't be with me...

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    ex boyfriend I should say seeing as he just broke up with me...
    Really sorry to hear this, but hopefully you two get the chance to talk and sort things out. Fingers crossed for ya.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Izalla View Post
    He won't tell me what's going on, just keeps saying about stuff going on with his family. I don't know why he won't explain what he's dealing with, it's driving me crazy that he's kept all this stress and struggling and stuff from me so that I had no idea what was going on. Makes me feel like a horrible girlfriend that he couldn't even confide in me...
    That's not your fault, chances are that he just didn't want to add stress to your life by having you worry about his problems. If this is the reason though, then his solution is rather ironic.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bootybear View Post
    How long were you together for?
    If it wasn't an overly long period of time, it's entirely possible he just didn't want to burden you with something serious. I've been with my partner for 5 years and I haven't told her my parents are on the verge of divorce, because I don't want to stress her out with my family issues.
    Just short of five months, and I would rather be "burdened" with his stress than be oblivious or broken up with. It's not like leaving me does anything for me except hurt me, so there's no real logic to the idea that this is better for me.
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    I'm sorry to hear that, Izalla.

    I don't know enough about your relationship to say that this is the case, but opening up and being vulnerable is often a difficult thing to do as a man. I'm not saying that I think this line of thinking is correct, but it seems society beats it into the head of men that we must be stoic and not show vulnerability. I know it's difficult not to, but please don't take it personally; I'm certain you're not a bad girlfriend.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Izalla View Post
    Just short of five months, and I would rather be "burdened" with his stress than be oblivious or broken up with. It's not like leaving me does anything for me except hurt me, so there's no real logic to the idea that this is better for me.
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    Basically he's a dummy for leaving someone as great as you.
    Sounds like this is still applicable.

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    I'm sorry Izalla men can be stoopy heads a lot

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    I'm sorry Izalla men can be stoopy heads a lot
    Not Joe though. Joe is smrt.

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