<~$~("The truth, is limitless in its range. If you drop a 'T' and look at it in reverse, it could hurt.")~$~> L.F.
<~$~("The most hopelessly stupid man is he who is not aware he is wise.")~$~> I.A.
<~$~("The truth, is limitless in its range. If you drop a 'T' and look at it in reverse, it could hurt.")~$~> L.F.
<~$~("The most hopelessly stupid man is he who is not aware he is wise.")~$~> I.A.
I really hope you are just misreading what was said and not just trolling with this message and the previous one. It's not her ex sending her the message, SHE sent it, while she was with the OP. She is absolutely in the wrong here, and the OP isn't.
Edit: Nvm OP said something about it, guess I should have read further down but meh.
<~$~("The truth, is limitless in its range. If you drop a 'T' and look at it in reverse, it could hurt.")~$~> L.F.
<~$~("The most hopelessly stupid man is he who is not aware he is wise.")~$~> I.A.
Ryna is tapping that bigtime.
"I'm not stuck in the trench, I'm maintaining my rating."
Dude GET OUT! One of the biggest mistakes I've done in my life was staying with my (now ex) after she cheated on me. I was afraid of being alone but the world is full of great non-cheating women and being alone for a little while is much better than living with the doubts Shinrael talks about.
Lol, insecure? Because women totally don't cheat! I must be coming up with these false stories to protect my ego and pride, right? RIGHT?! Get real.
And what do you mean "wrong"? This isn't a theory, this is my life experience. I didn't just assume my ex-girlfriend was cheating. She was cheating. It is a fact. And the signs are there in this guy's post as well. And they are obvious. I spent so many months trying to believe it isn't true. Trying to fool myself so I could be happy. But in the end, I asked her and she told me the truth. And it hurt. And I learned many valuable lessons.
Oh, look who had a sudden change of gears. Nothing less attractive than a human who speaks bullshit and doesn't have the balls (or whatever women value... idk) to stand behind his/her words later. Or atleast apology. Bleauh.
The worst kinda people are the ones who make you question the validity of your own sanity.
On top of everything, her mother defends her behavior with...
"Oh that's just how she is. She tends to call everyone babe or honey, and tells everyone Love ya, those messages look pretty harmless anyway."
And says it doesn't matter because it's dated 09-23-17, and so, it's "old".. Just now 5 months? And? So if I go out and be disloyal in some way, as long as I don't get caught red-handed or some short time after, it doesn't count?
And uhhhh, what? Like I haven't been with the girl for almost 3 years? That wasn't some pleasantry to some random 7\11 cashier or what have you. That's an ex-HUSBAND...
And really, she only speaks like that to randoms or the public rarely. So, BS.
She, (my gf, well soon to be ex) says, "Oh you're crazy and paranoid, stop listening to other people." When I bring up the issue of her not being honest with me, and that she's been (or did) exchange messages with her ex like that, while being in a committed relationship with me. I text her the screenshot that I have posted here, legit that was the entire content of my text, just the screenshot. 30 seconds later, her mom texts back with; "This is Roxxane. That is dated blah, blah. I am turning off my phone tonight."
Like holy shit. I see where my ex gets her extreme reactions and irrational thinking from. Total lack of comprehending reality and no grasp on the concept of cause & effect.
<~$~("The truth, is limitless in its range. If you drop a 'T' and look at it in reverse, it could hurt.")~$~> L.F.
<~$~("The most hopelessly stupid man is he who is not aware he is wise.")~$~> I.A.
dude, time to end the relationship it's getting toxic I bet if you dig for more evidence you'll find tons of it. What you accidentally saw was just the tip of an iceberg.
It looks like she isn't over him yet actually.
You're instincts are serving you well here, and on a scale of 1 to 10 for sure a 10, for all the reasons you pointed out. I am not one of those boyfriends that would freak out of my girlfriend had a mature and good relationship with her Ex's. In fact I would expect it.
But that is a far cry from showing affection behind your back. Sounds like there is hiding, and you should be concerned where you put your trust.
Milli Vanilli, Bigger than Elvis
I'm not fond of reading people's personal information without permission, but neither I'm cool with clinging on (ex)-partners or other affair (candidates) behind other's back. As this is no relationship criminal court, where just punishments must be dealt to whomever has been violating whichever rule of human relations or whatever you like to call it. The bottom line is, that there's serious issues in your relationship, which to me seem like beyond repair worth attempting. The chances are that she gets over her ex, and you are able to kiss and make up, but seriously I would not bet too many pennies for such to happen. Better to let go and seek for a less of a minefield to start building on.
I'd be concerned and upset too
Accept the behaviour and possible cheating on her side and stay with her or dont accept it and part ways. One of the 2. Dont get too upset or emotional or angry. Relax and enjoy.
Maybe you should take a minute and re-read and actually understand that it's the other way around? SHE is sending those messages, not receiving them.
Anyway from reading up so far, I guess it's time to break up with her... Not only does she try to downplay this, trying to convince you it's no big deal, she also involved her mother... 2 huge red flags right there...
Sorry but I think it would be best for you to end it now...
Last edited by Skorpionss; 2018-05-07 at 05:52 PM.