I didn't think it would bear saying, but my opinions are my own, not based on transient or current community trends. More so, I distinctly remember that many raised the lore issues as well during those threads, and how they would have been okay if the VE were made out of HE's, so it really feels you are nitpicking the whole thing, even when I don't think the then consensus as you frame it has any relevance to my point of what a compromise is.
I will only speak as someone that wants High Elves because of their lore, so any "compromise" that is based solely in aesthetics will mean less to me than others than focus only on the aesthetics. But you cannot dismiss the lore issues because, on your perception, more people simply care about the aesthetics. You cannot distill the reasons why people want HE's for one reason, and personally, I am on the side that cares about their lore.
More so, try to dismiss the validity of that stance, because other people care only about the aesthetic, is simply a shitty thing to do.
The problem is that Void Elves are neither a compromise for the people that only want the HE aesthetic, nor the people that want HE's because of the lore. Currently they aren't a compromise for either camp. How are they a compromise if no helfer is getting anything, it's ridiculous.
Void Elves are at best a compromise for people that wanted to look like a BE on the Alliance, that's it. What do people that wanted High Elves got? Nothing really, as it is not a comprimise for people that care about the lore, nor people that you claim to be the majority, and just wanted the aesthetic.
VE's are not a compromise on either looks or lore, no wonder barely anyone who wanted HE's considers them a compromise at all. It FAILS as a compromise, becase it's making almost no one who wanted High Elves happy, because no one ever asked for Void Elves. And again, if they would have given them at least a HE background, that would have been a compromise for SOME, at least more people than feel its a good compromise now.
That's why VE's are a failure as a compromise. Almost NO ONE on the pro helf side is happy with them, when at least SOME could have been with better lore.
Honestly this is just your inability to see that culture, ideology and politics can create a unique identity for any group, and are stuck on the notion that the only valid distinction can be made through race. I find this notion utterly limited.
To say that both groups HAVE to occupy the same "cultural, thematic and aesthetic space because they are the same race" is ridiculous, because that's tantamount to say defines your identity in a way cultural context and environment can't change, and I really cannot stress how much I disagree with that notion.