That's the point though. The show is lacking understanding of how things actually work. To say 'well you don't know how things work here' is literally telling people to stop thinking about things that don'y make sense and stay blissfully ignorant of all the problems with the story and setting.
There are a lot of problems with the script as though they never really thought it through from the POV of any of the characters. The video posted last page hit the mark, it seems the writers only really care about checking off boxes instead of making believable and relatable characters and world building.
And not in a consistently bad way either, cu they do some things really well and then some other parts make no sense. Like how any character is treated 'under watch' is never believable. Disa says she's escorted Elrond out, yet we see Elrond without any escort and free to roam as he pleases. We see Miriel put Galadriel on close watch, yet she freely gets to the tower of Elros, and no one gets reprimanded for letting her slip past. Elendil even gets 'promoted' for his failure to watch her, how's that make any sense?